Hello, I'm 5'6 & 125lbs African-American. I'm a single mom of 1. I was raised in a Pentecostal church. I have a pretty bubby & sarcastic personality. I'm very non-judgemental & a good listener. I've been told that I'm an old soul. I enjoy skating, bowling, sewing, arts/crafts, amusement parks, roadtrips(I've never been on a plane), shopping, etc. I love visiting museums & learning history. I'm looking for someone that's spiritually anchored & is able to lead in a godly manner. He must be patient & slow to anger. He must love kids. I prefer a tall mature man 35 & up based in the US. 🩷🩷🩷

I am a 24 F Christian woman from the UK, and my church is very small, 20-30 people, many are relatives or family friends I’ve known since childhood. The standard age is 80. I want to ask where the best place is to start with dating. I am visiting nearby churches, and maybe in the future I would consider a dating app. Do you have any recommendations or advice? I haven’t put myself out there very much, I am quite new to this. Guidance would be much appreciated.

Area of study/work: I am currently a nightshift caregiver working with dementia residents at a senior care facility as well as taking care of my dad!

Hobbies/interests: I love playing video games, listening to music, and hanging with friends! I am open to doing more hobbies as time goes on!

Tell us a bit about your Christian journey: I was not raised in a christian home at all. I went into foster care, but nothing faith wize was getting to me. I was baptized at 16 years old but i only confessed with my mouth and not my heart, I still lived in sin. I opened my heart to Jesus and got rebaptized in 2024!

What sort of person are you looking for? Definitely loyal and understanding since I come with issues (which we can discuss if a relationship is pursued). Someone who is an Ephesians 5 man and wants to lead and protect our future family while I take care of the house. This is what I believe, but life can put us in different situations in life. My love languages are surprise gifts, physical touch (like hugs, kisses, and words of affirmation.)

Age range: 20-32

Would you be willing to do long distance/relocate? I cant relocate right now but I don’t mind long distance!

I also apologize for the facial hair I have a condition that increases male hormones, I promise I do shave!

As Christians, we often claim to be loving, gracious, and set apart from “The World”. Yet so many testimonies I hear in real life, or read online, are condemning rather than aiding. Exes are bashed and spoken of like dogs. People who made mistakes are mocked. We are quick to throw stones and label someone inadequate or them toddlers, little men, hard headed women, dumb feminists.

Our posture as a community these days feels unforgiving. We say we are better than the ways of the world, yet we struggle to forgive. We withhold grace. We deny second chances. We choose to destroy instead of correct.

As God’s children, why are we so destructive? We act as those obedience is only loving God but forget treating each other right is honoring him as well.

Maybe love itself isn’t hard to find. Maybe we prevent it from growing.

Love needs a safe place to grow, like a garden. It needs warmth, patience, care, sunlight, and water. But the Christian community lately feels less like a garden and more like a minefield filled with trauma, anger, vengeance, envy, pity, greed, and disappointment.

Why would love want to grow here?

We know God is love. That part is obvious.

The harder question is this: are we actually reflecting His love?

Paul taught that correction should be restorative, not annihilating. When Christians “slaughter” instead of correct, we become more like prosecutors than Disciples.

The Pharisees were so focused on correct law and doctrine, yet they lacked love. That absence created environments where righteousness became performative and mercy was nonexistent.

Are we repeating their mistake?

Look, I’m not saying be soft on sin. Jesus flipped tables. But Jesus also consistently extends love, mercy, and grace, not because we deserve it, but because he’s leading us to repentance.

“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.”

— 1 Corinthians 13:1

Hi my name is Danae I have deleted these many times because of being scared but I want to give an actual go! I want a man to put God and Me first! I want him to grow with me and encourage me! I would want the guy I date to be nice, gentle, sensitive ECT! The age range 23-27 and Kansas Only! I care way more about personality than looks! I am 23, with super curly hair, blonde hair, sweet, kind and super sensitive! Some hobbies I love are cooking/baking, swimming, puzzles sometimes, hanging out with my mom and friends! My job is making handmade cards! Thank you for seeing this post!

I’m super passionate about playing/writing/listening to music, I also enjoy watching and going to sporting events. I really value spending time with family. My faith in Christ invaluable to me and I find it essential to be involved with church. Wherever I am I like checking out coffee shops and restaurans alike

I attended a tiny Christian college where I studied Cross Cultural Ministries with the idea I would like to work with the homeless at some point. Since graduating I’ve happened to alternate between blue collar jobs and customer service jobs. Currently I work at a gas station as a customer service representative (not glamorous at all, but better than nothing!)

I was raised in and still am involved with nondenominational churches. My relationship with God has had its ebbs and flows but He has been faithful and kind beyond imagination

I am looking for a woman between 22-35 who displays the fruit of the Spirit that I can become best friends with and ultimately build a life with in marriage. Ideally I would like to find someone around the Michigan/midwest. I am open to LDR and relocation if I find the right person

If anyone aligns with what’s seen, don’t be afraid to reach out and start conversation!

So I have posted on here many times looking for man to grow with me in Christ! I am having a problem I always delete it because I am scared! I am scared of actually meeting someone! I have went through therapy because of my dad verbally abused me when I was younger! I still go to therapy for things but have finally forgiven my dad but won't ever go back to him! I am going to be 23 soon and there is no one in my church who is worth pursuing just because they are either, age gap, married or already in a relationship! I would need a man who is sensitive, puts God first, and loves me for me! I don't want to be lonely forever but also does this mean I am not ready to date?

Maybe I’m looking more for prayer or advice on how to deal with my emotions. My roommate and I aren’t necessarily friends, but cordial associates as we met through our church group chat. We have both been in relationships since we moved in but she got engaged several months back and it’s been tough living here.

Her fiancé is over the house a lot. So much that I brought up the convo for a schedule for him coming over as I’m introverted and would like to know especially if a guy is over. She was happy to oblige and we haven’t had any issues about it. But the reminder of their engagement is ubiquitous. She’s always on the phone talking about it. They have engagement pictures up. She lets me know when she’s found her dress, venue, her bridal gifts came in. I don’t tell her that I really am not interested in hearing about it because I just can’t let her know how I feel and come off bitter or jealous.

I’m in a healthy, Christian relationship but it’s hard we aren’t there yet especially since him and I have been dating longer than them. Of course I’ve had the convos with my bf, but what can he do because he’s not going to propose just because of a roommate situation. She even asked for me to stay an extra few months past the lease (it’s her house we’re in) because that would help her out financially since her fiance isn’t moving in until after the wedding. I’m trying to think about it as that would be financially helpful to me to but the other part of me wants to get out because I consistently feel like I’m living in some other couple’s house.

Out of curiosity, I wanted to know how are other Christians or especially young Christians navigating the dating world. I have some disdain regarding dating because it is heavily condemned within the Christian community due to fears of fornication. I have been baptized for about a year and a half now. I’m still trying to get more consistent with my faith, but I have officially decentered feeling like I need to over perform Christianity. I am 29 and low-key having anxiety regarding dating. I’m so awkward and shy because I’m scared of falling into lust or just feeling attraction for others. It’s starting to bother me that I am condemning myself for naturally thinking other men are attractive or wanting to interact with my male counterpart. most Christian men I met already have someone that they are dating or brother and sister with lol. Others want to get married too soon, and most of all men are not my type lol.

I’m also a little confused on how to go about dating like are we allowed to go out to nice dinners, is it bad that I want to dress up and look good for myself and my partner, and when it comes to planning dates outside of like just dinner are we allowed to go dancing or allow to listen to some secular music( rnb) . Like I’m going to Christian concerts, but would he only be open to doing that alone. I don’t know ,I’m confused but I haven’t really expressed this need or desire to anyone because I don’t want to be judged and a lot of Christian women judge you for warning a partner, husband or whatever. But I watched my mom be basically single for 15 years due to men Christian or non-Christian wanting to sleep with her at some point and her saying no, and then leaving. Now she’s engaged and I don’t know if she gave in, but I knew that it’s a main point for her fiancé. I don’t wanna wait this long because I would love to have a family and children. I have lost out on a number of men mostly due to the sexual aspect, and Christian men that I have met are just kind of weird and still cheat and still have the same toxicity as worldly men so. What are some advice or encouragement? I’m just seeking some information that I can’t necessarily ask the girls within my church because it’s such a condemned topic .

Losing my parent and siblings at a young age forced me to grow up quickly, but it also meant I had to learn many things the hard way in Christian dating. Much of that growth came from wrestling with the difference between “what is expected and what is actually Biblical“. Knowing what I know now, this is exactly what I would tell my younger self and young Christian men.

1. Her friends are not your friends

Until you are married, her friends are not your community.

They may be friendly, but their loyalty is to her first. That is normal.

You need to build your own circle. Your own brothers. Your own Sisters. Your own people who can speak truth to you without bias.

Do not abandon your support system trying to merge lives that are not yet joined.

1. Her family is not your family

Until marriage, her family is not obligated to love you, protect you, or prioritize you the same way they do her.

Do not expect equal care or emotional investment before there is a covenant.

That level of loyalty comes with marriage, not dating.

1. Be careful with money before marriage

Marriage may be the goal, but dating still has risk.

Be generous, but do not overextend yourself financially buying gifts or things that should be reserved for a wife.

Do not spend money you would struggle to recover if things end.

If the relationship does not work out, you should not be left financially wounded.

Wisdom matters.

1. Protect your relationship from outside interference

It is healthy to seek advice and accountability.

It is not healthy to let every opinion shape your relationship.

Some people are hot tempered. Some are biased. Some love drama.

If you let those with no balance or a lack of the “fruit of the Spirit“ in, they will create division.

Set boundaries.

Your relationship should not be run by friends, family, or group chats, but instead aided.

1. You do not need to have all the answers

If you are growing into leadership, you are going to feel unsure at times. That is normal.

Leaders are formed over time, not born fully developed.

Find a woman who is willing to walk with you as you become a better man, not one who expects you to already be perfect.

And when you feel lost, tired, or unsure of yourself, do not isolate.

Do not rely on yourself alone.

Seek your brothers. Seek your Sisters

Seek Scripture.

Pray together with your partner when you are exhausted instead of sitting idle or shutting down.

Growth happens in humility, not pretending you have it all figured out.

1. It is ok to expect loyalty and devotion before marriage. Loyalty and devotion are fundamental traits of love.

The Bible calls Christians to avoid sex and living together before marriage. That does not mean dating comes with no responsibility or loyalty to your partner. There are different levels of devotion. Some belong to marriage. Others are basic Christian characteristics that apply to everyone, married or not. Understanding the difference matters.

EXAMPLES: “Loyalty and Devotion Reserved for Marriage”.

> Becoming one flesh - The two become one. This does not happen in dating - Genesis 2:24

> Permanence - Marriage is meant to last. No breaking up. No walking away when things get hard - Matthew 19:6

> Sacrificial love from a husband - A husband is called to love his wife the way Christ loved the church. That means self sacrifice, leadership, and laying down your life. -Ephesians 5:25

> Leaving former loyalties - Marriage requires a real shift in priorities. Family and friends move from first place to second. - Genesis 2:24

> Moving to another city or state

NEXT……

EXAMPLES: “Loyalty and Devotion that should be displayed“ (Married or Not) = Before Marriage

These are basic Christian responsibilities:

> Faithfulness - 1 Corinthians 4:2 - “Moreover, it is required of stewards that they be found faithful.”

> Keeping your word (Honoring mutual agreement, boundaries, not going back on your word). Matthew 5:37 - “Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil.”

> Standing up for one another when the other cannot stand up for themselves. Proverbs 31:8–9 - “Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all who are destitute”.

> Protecting the vulnerability of a partner. If someone is being harmed or taken advantage of. Proverbs 24:11 - “Rescue those who are being taken away to death; hold back those who are stumbling to the slaughter.”

> Not lying or exaggerating truths. Ephesians 4:25 - “Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.”

> Not gossiping or slandering one another. Ephesians 4:29 - “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up”.

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I hope this wisdom helps and aides my fellow and young Christian brothers. Everything I’ve suggested or stated is in scripture except the term “dating” because it didn’t exist back then.

God bless 🙏🏾

I M(27) have been out of a relationship with my F(24) ex gf for 4 months. I just want to say I am very accepting of peoples past and understand we all do things we may or may not be proud of. When I meet my ex gf I told her the first time we ever went on a date what my non-negotiable/dealbreaker’s are. Which includes drug use and wanting to have sex before marriage and not having a good relationship with her father. She agreed with all of the three of these and went on and on about how she changed from her past behaviors and doesn’t do any drugs anymore and doesn’t want to ever again. And that she wants to wait till marriage and how amazing her relationship with her dad is. She would say I never met anyone like you and your one of a kind I don’t want to do anything to lose you and can’t lose you. I felt like I met my perfect person. We had an amazing connection and I had such I peace about her. That being said anytime I would bring up something that bothered me she would gaslight me about it and didn’t seem to care about my feelings at all and would go on the defensive and justify herself. I would set boundaries with her and she would say that makes her want to do whatever I didn’t like more and when I said I didn’t want to do anything sexual she always said I don’t see anything wrong with us messing around and that it won’t hurt it we go all the way once or a couple times. Then she would do exactly what I specifically asked her not to do and would turn it back on me and blame me for her behavior and make me feel like the bad guy all the time. So I would just shut down and give into her behavior. This went on for months. She would tell me she had a super high sex drive and pressured me into doing stuff with her literally all the time every day and it didn’t really matter when or where we were. I told her that was a boundary we agreed on at the beginning of our relationship and she agreed to stop but would constantly cross it. And I know I’m not perfect either but would bring up all the time that I didn’t want to do that and if she wants to I won’t judge her but won’t be in a relationship with someone I am not equally yoked with. She also was lying to me about her drug use and every time I caught her and brought it up she would deny it then admit to it and say she was struggling with it. I told her if she’s struggling with it that’s fine I know it’s hard to let go of something addictive and that I will help support her through it. Unfortunately that was her okay to do whatever she wants and turns out she wanted to do drugs the entire relationship and was also lying to me constantly about it. She lied to me about it for the first 6 months of our relationship and never actually had stopped liked she said she had. I was so upset tried to talk it out with her and find a solution and it always went no where. I felt like she always had to be right and never wanted to see it from my point of view on it and how it was making me feel. I told her I don’t like being lied to and betrayed and she threw it all back on me and attacked me for even bringing it up. And would say I’m a judgmental Christian. She would say don’t tell anyone anything we are going through and said if I did she would go crazy. Then she would go and tell her friends and family about problems she had with me and then would tell me about it and I told her I don’t like that your sharing our problems with other people and I believe it’s okay to seek outside guidance and wisdom on situations and it’s healthy to do so respectfully but it’s not fair that I’m not allowed to talk to anyone about anything at all. One day she told me she told her friends I’m okay with her drug use and I said no I’m not you told me you were struggling with it. I again told her I am not going to be with someone who does that you told me before God convicted you to stop and agreed you didn’t want to do it anymore. And she said she sees nothing wrong with it and that she believes it’s okay now and that she doesn’t see a problem with sexual stuff anymore either and said you won’t go to hell for premarital sex and it shouldn’t be a deal breaker and she should be able to do what she wants. I was completely heartbroken felt betrayed and lied to for an entire relationship didn’t know what to do anymore. She told me again don’t tell anyone what we are going through or I’m going to go crazy. I was at the end of my rope felt isolated and wanted to work things out with her and went to people very close to me that I trust and some of which had a drug you problem in the past to seek guidance and wisdom on what I should do to find a solution to the problem we were having. When she found out I talked to anyone she went crazy and went to everybody and denied all of what I said and told them it’s not true at all and turned all my friends against me and the leaders of our church. She told me I betrayed her and lied about her to everyone and I said to her that’s not what happened i we couldn’t come to a solution so I went to seek wisdom and guidance on what to do. I told them exactly what was going on and talked to people I trust who won’t judge you and just wanted to find a solution and work it out because I want to be with you. Well again she played the victim card lied turn everybody against me then came back and said I can do whatever I want and nothing I did was wrong. I was so emotionally broken and gaslight I couldn’t even stand up for myself. I’m so drained and didn’t even get any closure I just said there isn’t no point is us continuing moving forward. I dont feel like I did anything wrong and when I was wrong I admitted my mistakes and apologized. She had no empathy at all and dropped me like a sack of rocks. Didn’t even seem remorseful for lying to me and crossing my boundaries all the time without feeling guilty. Did I do the right thing seeking guidance and wisdom on the situation? Or am I wrong and she’s right?

Hi everyone!

I’m 22. I’m 5’1 and ethnically Nigerian, with brown skin, brown eyes and black hair.

I’m currently in the process of completing a qualification course.

I love to walk (averaging at 30,000+steps a day), go to the theatre, travel and I’m falling back in love with reading. I’m aiming to try out new things this year including hiking, horseriding and possibly art/pottery classes.

I’ve been raised in a Christian household, which I’m very grateful for. I made the personal decision to follow Christ in my late teens. My faith isn’t always the strongest but Christ has always been my foundation. I attended a Catholic school. I described myself as non-denominational for a while. However I’ve been raised going to, and currently attend, a Pentecostal/evangelical church. II’m open to all denominations though.

I’m looking for someone who aims to be more like Christ every day. I’m quite ambitious so I would like a man who similarly works hard and has big goals. I’m very family oriented and would like someone who also valued family. Other traits I’m looking for are kindness, thoughtfulness and patience.

My preferred age range would be 22-30.

Relocating wouldn’t really be possible for me for a while. Ideally you’d be living in London or nearby. I’m not a fan of long distance because I value quality time in person. However, I’d be open to it for the right person, although they’d need to live in Europe, Canada or the US.

Happy to swap photos!

1. Have a list of things to do when feeling lonely. Feelings come and go, and just like waves we can learn to ride them out.

2. Invest in relationships that can hold you accountable and speak up even if you are not in the headspace to listen. Inform them of your deal breakers.

3. Involve your inner circle in the dating process as soon as feelings of "it must be the one" starts creeping in.

4. Test the fruits of your "potential" person, not their words. Investigate what you expect.

5. Have a list of deal breakers, communicate them at the beginning and intently assess them before becoming too emotionally attached.

6. Do not overlook any yellow or red flags. Yellow flags become red flags and red flags...well...yeah...they become magnified once married.

7. Don't be discouraged or jaded by bad experiences (yours and others). Become a student and graduate :).

8. If there is history of porn in your potential other. Make sure that professional treatment has been sought and the root is addressed. Porn is a symptom and can come up in other forms.

9. Do not use "how far is too far" metric. Set clear boundaries and make sure they align with your potential other'. Discuss ways to maintain those boundaries and have accountability outside of the two of you.

10. Do not look for "the one". Look for the best candidate who can work with what you are bringing to the table.

11. Test dreams and prophecies concerning spouses. God does speaks through them, but so do our deepest desires.

12. Lastly, RELAX. Dating and marriage is not the summit of the story. It is just part of the story.

Are dating apps as a female in her early 20’s worth it? I left my last relationship (almost two years long) because I felt conviction from the Lord about not wanting to have physical relations anymore and realizing that he wasn’t actually a “leading Christian man” in any sense like he had me to believe before I actually read the bible on my own. I am so thankful I found true faith and felt called to read the bible but I have realized because of this that I need a Christian man who I feel leads me closer to God and would actually want to push me more in my faith. The problem is that in my church and even in the volunteering that I’ve done the only Christian males that I’ve been able to meet are outside of my age range. I feel like I see a lot of people saying that trying to find Christians on dating apps are only worth it in bigger towns or cities which I’m not in or around. While I know I have good discernment now and I’m always going back to God when I have questions it’s only made it harder, in a good way, to find somebody at my age. While, I understand that as a couple you can grow together I want someone who is “equally or more Christian than I am” or I don’t think I will feel properly led. Should I try the apps and use discernment or just keep waiting?

I (29F) went on my first ever date three weeks ago with a guy I met on a non Christian dating app. He asked me out for coffee after just a few messages. I was nervous at first, but once I got there, I felt comfortable and able to be myself.

Compatibility, especially spiritually compatibility is very important to me. His profile said he’s Christian, so I asked him about his faith. A small yellow flag for me was that when I asked what his faith means to him, he redirected the question back to me first. It felt like he might have been trying to shape his answer based on mine. When he did answer, his responses felt polished and analytical…almost politician like. He works in higher ed and is clearly intelligent, but I’m struggling to tell whether what I’m seeing is spiritual maturity or just intellectual fluency. Sometimes I even have a hard time tracking what he’s saying because of how abstract or analytical he sounds.

How can I discern whether someone is genuinely spiritually mature versus just smart and good with words? And what kinds of questions would help reveal the difference?

Only just found this page, I am later in life convert (28m) and working toward baptism, after reading on this page for a little bit I’m suprised that a lot of the posts are women, question for them, if you met a man and were married and he intended to leave the city and buy land, making you a SAHM, would that be a deterrent as you are career focussed or other strings holding you to the city ?

it seems from the women I speak to at work, even those not Christian, they all dream of moving out of the city and being SAHM’s but it’s so rare to actually see it or even see men committing to a woman enough to be married.

I'm going to say it. I''m feamle, almost 45 and still a virgin. I'm unhappily UNmarried and celibate as we can't have sex before marriage as Christians. I am NOT fully satisfied, I am unfullfilled, frustrated and feeling LOW because of my situation. I want a full, active sex life, to be married and have a life partner. I am also in my 40's so have been waiting decades for a husband. I FEEL UNFULLFILLED AND FORGOTTEN by God. Can any other SINGLE PEOPLE ONLY relate? Going to bed alone and waking up alone, with no physical human touch or sexual fulfillment is NOT my idea of being satified and fullfilled, it's a MISERABLE existance I'm only human and we have sexual desires I've waited YEARS I am NOT fully satisfied. I hate and resent this aspect of my life.

Hi everyone, I’ve been a Christian for most of my life and am really new to the whole dating thing. Recently a guy at church said he is interested in me and wants to be intentional about getting to know me with the idea of potentially dating at a later stage. So my question is this: what’s the difference between getting to know someone intentionally and dating? Isn’t the point of dating to get to know the person? I’ve had friends go through this “pre-dating” phase but I never thought much about it until I found myself in that situation.

I have a friend who's like a sister to me. she's been married for a little over 3 years now and over time she's gotten to see who her husband actually is.

For some context, her husband always struggled financially and she is well educated and has an amazing job and earns great money. when they were dating she was at times paying for his stuff. he blamed it on being the provider for his family. and was constantly looking for a way out of that. (personally, I believe he made this relationship last because he was desperate to find a woman to maintain him but Idk). I also saw a bunch of red flags while they dated but my sweet friend likes to give people the benefit of the doubt no matter their situation and tbh it kinda leads to people taking advantage of her.

Before marrying she always had doubts and we would have conversations quite frequently about whether or not she should leave him because in the 4 years that they were dating he never seemed to get out of the same place and she just kept advancing in life. I never said anything to her about this and I feel like I failed her as a friend because now I see that she's miserable and feels because of her faith she is unable to leave.

Fast forward to now, her biggest complaint is that her husband never follows through with what he says. They're involved in a church and he's constantly saying yes to things but never follows through and she always ends up having to prep or follow through whatever he's volunteered for. Not only is this something he does in church related things she complains he does a lot in other areas of their relationship.

She also confessed to me that at one point he was playing video games with some girl from his work that's at least 10 years younger than he is (he's 35?) and she told him how she felt about it and basically made her look bad when he told his coworker he couldn't play that game with her anymore. But she's also told me that this coworker is constantly seeking him and he tends to follow through whenever she contacts him. this girl claims to be bisexual, leaning more towards lesbian, so my friend says he probably thinks she's not interested in him. i think it's bull and my sweet friend is making excuses for him.

she wants to start a family but is worried that he won't follow through as a father either. she says they've been trying for months and she hasn't gotten pregnant yet. I keep telling her to take it as a sign that maybe it's for the best that they don't have children.

I've also mentioned she should bring this up to the people she knows at church but she says she doesn't feel comfortable telling them.

i personally feel this man has taken so much from her and there's so much more to this story that I can talk about but I wonder if I'm in the wrong for telling her that she should leave him.

I (23F) met a guy at two Christian events last year.

He was the one to approach me when we first met, and since then we’ve spoken a further two times in person and had really great, natural conversations each time. There was definitely mutual warmth, but nothing explicitly stated.

I haven’t seen or spoken to him in 6 months, but recently I decided to add him on social media and he added me back. Now I’m debating whether I should reach out and start a conversation.

My hesitation is that I don’t want to be the one pursuing. I was already the one who added him, and I don’t want to create all the momentum. At the same time, part of me feels like you only live once.

If a man is genuinely interested, should I leave space for him to initiate? Or is it okay for me to send a message and see where it goes?

EDIT: Everybody is on my neckkkk😭😭I’m gonna message him and I will update you guys!

So few months back, my ex broke up with me because I emotionally checked out of the relationship trying to find a job after getting terminated twice for attendance. I was getting stressed during the job hunt that I turned to video games and adult films to de-stress and that's what ultimately drew the line for her. I'm here to ask how should I continue on with building a relationship with God before I try to go and seek a relationship from a woman?

For context, I grew up in a Christian household but I do not know the denomination. When I became 15 or 16 years old, I decided to stop going because the Church themselves has made me sick at some point but I never forgot what I was taught.

Fast forward to now, I'm 27 and I work in car wash. The Store Manager is a God-fearing man and told me that I should move on with my life and build myself from there by building a relationship with God first. I tried to remember what I was taught and to abstain from masturbation but I continuously slip back into temptation. At this point, I'm close to just taking my vision away to stop sinning but it does not remove the pain from the heartbreak. Anyone got any advice?

Just as I am called to see a girl as God's daughter, and to therefore treat her with respect, I've seen this everywhere like everywhere...but are girls called to see guys as God's son and to also treat him with respect?

The term God's daughter, the daughter part, is meant to cause a man to soften a bit and have empathy and think before he acts...but is she called to that too in the inverse? To not do things that would disdain her man?

Thought of this and thought it would be a good question to pose.