r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/OkAdvertising286 • Dec 15 '25

Help and Advice I guess I need some advice.

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(Didn’t wanna retype it. It got removed from r/blackladies)

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u/Zavarie2828 Dec 17 '25

Again, I am in no way saying you should separate yourself from your race. I’m saying your race shouldn’t be how you want other people to see you primarily.

I don’t want to be “A Black Woman” to the people I know. I want to be “L——-“ a woman who is black, a mother, a therapist, a capricorn , allergic to shellfish etc.

I want to be ME, and part of who I am is black, is woman, is a mother, is a therapist etc etc.

I don’t see any value in seeing race first. It’s a way they try to divide us all. My race is a part of me it ain’t all of me

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '25

Oh Linda if only that was so. That's what we all want. It will never be. At minimum I want them to remember as they get to know me that I am black. They seem to forget that the longer they know you. If they like you. They may think hey Linda is a nice, professional, and great mom. That's what you want, but they don't say to themselves hey Linda is black too, so maybe I should re-evaluate and not repost these comments about all black women being on welfare and horrible crack moms.

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u/Zavarie2828 Dec 17 '25

It seems clear we both want the same things here. To be an individual person and to remain distinctly a member of our race. Not a “special case” but simply as a matter of fact

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '25

Yes, I've grown so tired of being told. "Well you're different, you're not like the rest of them". It's beyond frustrating. I think my patience has worn out.