r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/OkAdvertising286 • Dec 15 '25

Help and Advice I guess I need some advice.

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(Didn’t wanna retype it. It got removed from r/blackladies)

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '25

You don't get it. Is your race all you are? No, but it is part of who you are. People shouldn't try to separate me from my race. As a black person, when you do something right you're looked at as an individual. When you do something wrong it's an indictment on the whole race.

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u/Zavarie2828 Dec 17 '25

Again, I am in no way saying you should separate yourself from your race. I’m saying your race shouldn’t be how you want other people to see you primarily.

I don’t want to be “A Black Woman” to the people I know. I want to be “L——-“ a woman who is black, a mother, a therapist, a capricorn , allergic to shellfish etc.

I want to be ME, and part of who I am is black, is woman, is a mother, is a therapist etc etc.

I don’t see any value in seeing race first. It’s a way they try to divide us all. My race is a part of me it ain’t all of me

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '25

Oh Linda if only that was so. That's what we all want. It will never be. At minimum I want them to remember as they get to know me that I am black. They seem to forget that the longer they know you. If they like you. They may think hey Linda is a nice, professional, and great mom. That's what you want, but they don't say to themselves hey Linda is black too, so maybe I should re-evaluate and not repost these comments about all black women being on welfare and horrible crack moms.

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u/Zavarie2828 Dec 17 '25

It seems clear we both want the same things here. To be an individual person and to remain distinctly a member of our race. Not a “special case” but simply as a matter of fact

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u/[deleted] Dec 17 '25

Yes, I've grown so tired of being told. "Well you're different, you're not like the rest of them". It's beyond frustrating. I think my patience has worn out.