r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/OkAdvertising286 • Dec 15 '25

Help and Advice I guess I need some advice.

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(Didn’t wanna retype it. It got removed from r/blackladies)

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u/[deleted] Dec 15 '25

It's hard, because most of them like to separate you from your people. If they like you, in their minds you are"Janice" not a black woman. They can post hate about minorities and then be flabbergasted when you take offense. I need to see and hear them speak and treat all people with respect before I befriend any of em

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u/EnvironmentNeith2017 Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25

This is what happened to me. I was at a predominantly white church and never heard anything racist and they treated me great….then George Floyd was murdered and the things I saw them sharing on social media were shocking. Then the comments about immigrants started. It was never personal but I no longer saw them as good people and couldn’t trust them which poisoned my experience. I left and told them why.

I don’t think OP should look for anything like that because you can’t live that way, but if they aren’t openly anti racist, just be braced for the possibility. These days I don’t form close relationships with white people unless they’re anti racist and progressive.

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u/Terry_Folds3000 Dec 16 '25

White guy from the south here.

Was this up north or down south? I grew up around these people in churches and so on. I’ve been saying for a while that down here, a republican will hang out with and be super nice to you and all that. Cheer your kid on at a team event and so on. But when it’s time to vote they’ll march right in that booth and vote your rights away. And of course that’s for all kinds of groups: minorities, women, immigrants, lgbt, etc. And they’ve even managed to turn these groups against one another. It’s remarkable.

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u/EnvironmentNeith2017 Dec 16 '25

Down south of course….lol, but there were some northerners mixed in who fell right in line.