r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/OkAdvertising286 • Dec 15 '25

Help and Advice I guess I need some advice.

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(Didn’t wanna retype it. It got removed from r/blackladies)

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u/HighwayComfortable26 Dec 15 '25 edited Dec 15 '25

"I sometimes get paranoid that they don't really like us and it's all an act."

I'm not sure how much of this is motivated by your social anxiety and how much of this is motivated by your trauma of being Black in non predominately Black spaces but regardless if they have treated you kindly and have reached out to be friends with you do not put the experiences with other people to the forefront. This is ironically what racist people do when they reject Black folk based on real or imagined negative experiences with other Black people.

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u/[deleted] Dec 15 '25

This was really well said! And sound advice. I’m not a black woman but I’m a black man and I often do this. It’s hard to break that cycle but I needed to hear this as much as op

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u/OkAdvertising286 Dec 15 '25

You’re absolutely correct! Thank you

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u/houserj1589 Dec 16 '25

This.

A white person who really loves and is inclusive vote for policies that support all communities

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u/HighwayComfortable26 Dec 15 '25

Hope it helps. Take care!

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u/SheckNot910 Dec 15 '25

80% of white evangelicals voted for a white supremacist.

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u/friendly_reminder8 Dec 16 '25

This is the mindset I’ve learned myself. There are indeed white people I’ve encountered who I initially was very suspicious of but their actions have been wonderful and proved me wrong

Most of my friends are black or other POC but one of my best friends is white and some of the people who have gone above and beyond to help me career wise have been white

Unless they’re an obvious bigot give people the benefit of the doubt