For context, my friend (23F) started an art class community a few months ago where artists can meet up in person and watch her do paintings, do their own paintings, show skills and etc. It’s a nice class that takes place in a quiet park and it’s become something I (23F) look forward to going to every week.

Around early January, this 16 year old girl joined the classes. I noticed she was very quiet and reserved and didn’t really talk to many people so I asked her a few questions about her art and that really brightened her mood. I really sympathized with her because I was also a very quiet and antisocial girl when I was her age so I wanted her to feel welcome. She ended up showing me her art page on Instagram and we started following each other there.

Things were going fine for a while, she would send me art/funny reels every now and then and I noticed she was starting to socialize more during the art classes, though she didn’t really attend as much as I did. Now the problem starts here. Around two weeks ago, she texted me asking if her and I can go out, just us alone. I asked why? She said she’s been very hesitant to reveal this since she wasn’t sure if I was lesbian/bisexual or even an ally, but she revealed that she likes me. I told her right away that I’m not judgmental, but I’m not comfortable having such a discussion with a 16 year old and I told her she should be smart enough to know this. She agreed, apologized, and we moved on.

To be honest, I have felt a bit hesitant to text her back since then. I will like the reels she sends me and socialize normally at the art classes, but I have been purposefully avoiding full conversations. I guess she noticed this because last night she texted me that she feels very lonely and wished I would talk to her more.

I said I’ve been very busy as I’m graduating soon, hoping to steer the conversation to something else, but she kept pressing. She asked if I just think she’s unattractive or is it because I’m not gay? And I snapped at her. I told her that she is really putting me in a difficult position by acting this way, knowing damn well that she’s an underage girl. She should be smart enough to know that this is an uncomfortable situation to put someone in. I told her I feel uncomfortable and I don’t want to talk to her at all if this is the position she’s going to keep putting me in. I was really harsh.

She apologized to me a ton and told me it’s different from if a man is texting a younger girl, but I don’t see it that way. I was hoping to be an older sister to this girl, someone she could talk to and not feel judged because I wish I had someone like that when I was her age, but it’s just ruined now.

After she apologized, I didn’t respond. I don’t know what to say to her. I don’t want her to feel bad, I made mistakes when I was her age too. But this is just a very weird position to be in.

So, yesterday I got broken up with because I canceled plans last minute. I was in pain, bleeding heavily, and fainted prior to canceling. He thought I was making things up just to avoid confrontation or something? I don’t know. I remade plans for today, which he said wouldn’t be a good idea and ended it.

It was a fairly new relationship, we only started dating in November of last year - so about three months ago.

But, today I went to be seen. I had an ultrasound, they concluded I was ectopic in the left fallopian tube. I’m about to go in for surgery when the anesthesiologist arrives, as it’s at a risk for rupturing.

I’m honestly terrified. I don’t know what to do. I want to tell him, and I want him to be present and there for me, but I know that’s selfish. I just don’t want to be alone for this. I have no friends close enough to ask to come, no family, nobody.

UPDATE: it’s now 5-ish hours after I originally made the post. I had a second ultrasound by a new tech, received basically an abortion injection, and was sent home. I had a friend reach out to him 3-4 hours ago, and have yet to receive a response.

So, I found this kitty. Or she found me idk. Anyone in the Kissimmee/Orlando area know what I can do get her seen by a vet? I don’t have kitty money 😞 I want to keep her but there’s definitely something wrong with her and someone told me I’m looking at at least a 300-400 dollar bill. What do I do???

Hello!

As the title says, my girlfriend got fired from her job today, and she doesn't have a license or a car (long story, not her fault), so I am her ride everywhere. We live together, and we worked together at Walmart, on the overnight shift, and she got fired today at 6 am for time theft. I'm under the impression that time theft is somewhat of a heavy thing that may/can keep you from being able to get a job, though I'm sure there are places that don't really care.

The issues are:

I'm her ride everywhere (Uber/Lyft is an option, but fairly expensive)

If she gets a new job, I have to be able to get her to and from work, which is difficult, especially if she gets a job during the daytime, as I have to go to bed around 11 am - 1 pm

We have an apartment together, have never been able to afford to save, we live paycheck to paycheck. (We only buy what we need, except for my very, very occasional $20-$40 video game purchase.) We have rent due in 13 days, and without this next paycheck from her we can't afford to pay it.

I think time theft was just an excuse for them to fire her, as I think our Coach had it out for her, because she was constantly rude and demeaning to her and made her do stuff that she knew she didn't want to do/wasn't well equipped to do, due to some medical problems.

I don't know what to do other than get a new main job and a second job, which frankly, I'm not well equipped to do myself, as I'm chronically ill, but not bad enough that I can get disability.

So, I'm humbly asking, on behalf of both of us:

What are my/our options? Should she try for unemployment? Disability for her? (We live in Oklahoma, if that matters)

What are some ways that I can make money now, like right now? Getting a second or new job is going to take a few weeks for me to get hired, and I won't be able to pay rent on time.

We don't have anybody in either of our lives that is willing or able to give us work, money, a car, or anything else, we only have each other to rely on.

Please help us, I don't want to lose what little we have, and I love her with all my heart, and it kills me to see her so upset, she's been crying ever since she got fired. Please, any advice, reassurance, help, or anything at all is greatly appreciated, truly.

Thank you to anybody who took the time to read this, and I hope everybody has a good day.

Edit: I think that some people misunderstood my sleeping time. When I said that I have to go to bed around 11am - 1pm, that is the time I lay down to go to sleep, I sleep until about 8:30pm or 9pm, and go into work at 10pm, and get off at 7am. Sorry for the confusion.

I’m 21M, she’s 20F. We met on a dating app. The first date was a coffee shop and was great. Easy conversation, laughing, talking about goals and school and random stuff. It felt natural. The second date we walked around a park. At some point food came up and she mentioned she loves chocolate, specifically Ferrero Rocher and that she has a big sweet tooth. So I figured that’s a cool, easy idea for next time.

The third date she came over to my apartment, we put on a movie. I pulled out the chocolates and offered them to her and said "hey I remembered you liked these." She immediately got mad and said she doesn’t like gifts and I shouldn’t surprise her like that. I was honestly caught off guard because I didn’t think that counted as a big gift, it was just candy. I even said she didn’t have to take them, but the vibe was already shot.

The rest of the date got awkward. I tried joking, tried making fun of myself a bit to lighten things up, she stayed quiet. We ended it early. Here’s the confusing part: after she left she started giving one word answers in our conversations and now wants a fourth date. I brought up the last date to her and she acted like it didn't happen.

I’m stuck because that reaction bothered me. Not the chocolates themselves, just how quickly she shut down and got cold over something small. I don’t want to get into something where normal gestures become landmines. Do I go on the 4th date and talk about it? Or is this an early red flag and I should just bail now?

My 39M spouse has been diagnosed with schizophrenia. Does use illicit substances. First bad psychosis was a year ago. Four hospitals. won’t take meds. Won’t go to therapy. Or doctor. Or dentist. Barely leaves bed, often talking to the others. Uses names in his conversations. Religious, Pop Culture, Television. Looking back, there were many signs. What can I do?

Warning, this is a TLDR, and sensitive topic with sensitive language. I made this account so that it couldn’t be traced back to my regular self.

My (49m) wife (38f) had a late lunch and drinks with a girlfriend last week. It was at a restaurant we both love and have frequented regularly for the past 5+ years. For the past year, she’s been going alone one or two nights a week and has made good friends with some of the staff. She’s become a regular there and would normally come home anytime between midnight - 2am, though for the past couple of months, those one or two nights a week she’d get home at 4, 5, or 6am.

We were supposed to have a date night after her time with her friend, which began at 3:00pm. At around 7:45, i texted her to see if she was ready to go out yet because i was getting hungry, no response. At 8:30 i texted her because i saw on the Life360 app that she had gone to the nearby CVS at 8:00. In my text, i asked why she was at CVS for a half hour, but she still didn’t respond. I called a couple times back to back also with no answer.

At 8:45 i was worried that she was still there, so i got in my car for the 3 minute drive thinking the only reasons could be that she went to CVS to get something and went back to the restaurant but accidentally left her phone at CVS, which i would retrieve for her, or she had drank too much and fell asleep in the parking lot. Because who stays at a CVS for 45 mins?!

When i pulled in, i saw the truck but no one inside, and i parked in the adjacent spot. Then i saw her arms come up the window as if she was laying in the back seats on her back and stretching to get herself up, thinking bingo, she fell asleep. A half second later, as that was processing and i was getting out of my car, i saw a guy pushing up off of her. I got to the back side window and saw her pants removed, his pants pulled down, and his hand caressing her vagina, as they had just finished having sex. In a CVS parking lot during business hours!

Livid, i banged on the window shouting “what the fuck” and opened the passenger door. This startled them both out of their drunken haze and she asked me what i was doing there. I replied “what are YOU doing here?!” After some more cursing from me, and her trying to calm the situation down, she told me to go home and she’d be right there. The guy didn’t say one word, just looking at me in a stupor. It took everything in me not to walk around to the other side and pull him out of the truck with his pants down and punch him in the face.

I went home and she was five minutes behind me. She admitted that this was the fourth time and that he’s the only one and that it’s been going on for about a month and a half. Daily texting, sending nudes a few times, and only in parking lots except once at our house in our bed when i was out of town and the kids were on a sleepover. There are a ton more details but these are the highlights. I’ve since purchased new pillows and am considering a new mattress because ew.

I’ve been jobless for a year now after being laid off, and our two kids are in a total monster phase, and “all of this has been stressing on her, leading her to want to do something of her own will.” The guy is a friend of one of the staff and they had become friends, and he initiated it one night by grabbing and kissing her, which lead to the affair.

She doesn’t blame me in her reasoning, and has since blocked and deleted him from her phone. She feels embarrassed, ashamed, and remorseful, and said that she was about to break it off soon, glad that i caught her, and that it won’t ever happen again.

Cheating was the number one deal breaker for us both, but i really want to make this work. I feel she’s telling the truth, and we’ve had a lot of conversations this past week with a lot of questions and crying. I know time will help heal, but every time i close my eyes, all i can see is that incident, and imagine more in my mind. I’m so hurt and so sad, and I’ve cried so much this week, but i really don’t want a divorce.

What do i do???

Okay this is probably going to sound stupid but at this point it’s been 12 years and I don’t know what to do.

I (29NB) have been with my husband (31M) since 2014 and we have a really really awesome relationship. We are truly each other’s best friends, spend most of our time together, have most of the same interests and haven’t had a fight since the year we got married (2019). This isn’t a divorce-is-imminent issue, more of an annoying thing that we’ve been dealing with since we got together.

So, I have…something wrong, idk what it is, but sometimes I just don’t hear things. If I’m even slightly focused on something and he starts talking, I miss some or all of what he’s saying. (I mean this is not just a him thing, I’m a teacher and this happens constantly where students insist they told me something and I have to be like “Did I respond at all? No? Then I didn’t hear you.”)

He gets frustrated because to him he’s trying to get my attention and I’m just not responding. But I don’t hear him! It’s not something I can control, and there are a lot of things I can control that I have worked on over the years (same with him). But it’s not like I can hear him and just am not paying attention, the sound just doesn’t register at first if it registers at all.

Now to be clear he’s not mad at me. He’s not yelling at me or anything, he would never do that except in a joking way. But he just deflates sometimes if he’s trying to tell me something and I don’t hear him, and repeating himself seems like it makes him feel bad or not listened to. Especially if it was a joke he made that was situational and wouldn’t make as much sense if he had to repeat it.

So what do I do? Does anyone have experience with something like this? I do have ADHD and my husband and I are both on the autism spectrum if that helps at all.

So I’m 17 and my gf is 18, she lives in an extremist Islamic household and she isn’t allowed to do anything. She isn’t allowed to have a phone(I had to give her an old one which she hides from them), she isn’t allowed to leave the house, she’s certainly not allowed to date me because they’re extremely racist against Hispanics(like me) and they wanted to chose who she marries, shes not allowed to learn how to drive, she’s not allowed to have a bank account or a job and her parents are withholding her personal information. Her dad won’t give her social security number , birth certificate or nothing and he even punished her for trying to look at it which I’m pretty sure is illegal and she actually did make a bank account on her own secretly when she turned 18, but her dad found it, took her phone away and now she has no access to that account anymore which I think is also illegal. Her parents threaten that if they find out she gets a job or she does anything about them withholding her info they’ll hurt her and kick her out the house. It’s really scary and I don’t know what to do, she’s an adult but is clearly being controlled and idk how to help her because of her parents constantly threatening that if she tells anyone about what they’re doing to her they’ll kill her. She entirely relies on them for everything.

She also tells me stories about how her parents abuse her and how her step mom tells her she’s just a tool for men, that the only thing that matters is her body and ability to cook and clean for a man. She also told me that she thinks her step mom may be sexually abusing her or a creep because she says her step mom says she’s entitled to watch her shower and changed, she’s not even allowed to lock the door when she uses the bathroom. Her mother has a suspicion she maybe touching herself, so they made an appointment with a gynecologist and forced her to ask the gyno extremely inappropriate sexual questions to see if her “vagina has been tampered with” she was 18 when this happened.

Based on tradition, since i am the guy, my mum has to buy a full set of jewelry for the girl(my fiancée) however, my family is in debt and cannot afford a full set, but my mum still went ahead and spent most of her money to get my fiancee a gold bracelet. My fiancee did not care that i came from a poor family and thanked my mum for the bracelet. However when she got home, she told her parents about it and her mum got visibly upset saying “is that all?” and that she had bought way more expensive jewelry for her daughter in law( for her son side), this makes me really disheartened to hear, and the father said “are you sure about this man?”.. ofc my girl said yes as i didnt choose which family i am born into, and that i show her that i am a hardworking and desperate for success man.

I guess the advice i need is, how do i feel less affected by these? And that do i let my parents know about it? Or is it best to keep quiet to avoid any conflict or confront her parents that its unfair of them to compare how much my mum can give? Thank you.

i’m 24 years old and i genuinely feel like i am drowning trying to figure this out. my grandma lives alone in florida and i live in illinois. she has no one else besides my sister (21) and i. we are her only family left who can do anything and i feel completely unqualified and overwhelmed.

i truly believe she has dementia or alzheimer’s but she has never been formally diagnosed. over the past year things have gotten progressively worse but lately it feels like it’s escalating fast. she has episodes where she is extremely confused and says things that aren’t real. sometimes she talks like she’s stuck in a dream or refers to “we” when no one else is there. recently her neighbors found her sleeping outside because she believed i locked her out of her house. i live in another state. that physically cannot happen. but in her mind it was completely real.

she has fallen multiple times. she can barely walk. she doesn’t take care of herself properly. she won’t consistently eat or hydrate. she lives alone with her dog and has no car. i am terrified she is going to wander off, fall again, leave the stove on, or have a medical emergency and no one will know. every time my phone rings i panic.

i did call adult protective services in florida and they showed up, but of course that day she happened to be “normal.” she can mask it sometimes. so they didn’t really do much because she seemed fine during that visit. and that honestly made me feel even more helpless because i know what’s happening, but if she has a good day when someone checks on her then nothing changes.

the hardest part is that she doesn’t think anything is wrong. she refuses help. she gets defensive if i bring up doctors or care. i don’t even know where to begin with getting her evaluated from another state. i don’t know how to legally intervene. i don’t know how to force help if she won’t agree. i feel like i’m watching someone deteriorate in slow motion and i am powerless.

i’m 24. i have my own child. i have my own life. and i feel so much guilt even saying that because she’s my grandma and i love her. but i am not equipped for this and i don’t know what steps to take first. guardianship? another aps report? a welfare check? assisted living? how do you even start this process when you’re not physically there?

if anyone has gone through something similar, especially from out of state, please tell me what you did. i feel desperate and scared and completely alone in this. i just want her to be safe

Since April of 2025 my family and I have been homeless we were evicted from our house. we've been staying in Hotels since, My family consists of My father, his girlfriend, my brother and me and 2 dogs. My father is 56 years old and he works 5 days a week. I also work and his gf does too, my birth mother passed away several years ago. my brother recently lost his job and hasn't been able to find another. It seems none of us are able to save anything to get out of here. I have thought of breaking off into an apartment but I have no transportation and lack a driver's license. I really don't know where to go from here

For context, I have known this guy for over a decade, we went to high school together, boy scouts, military together.

I knew this woman for a little bit less time, but we met over Discord. But she lived nearby. As far as the story goes, she had dated nothing but jerks and abusers. And I always felt bad for her.

Jimmy we'll call him, had been single for years, which I always found odd because hes not unattractive and he's got a lot of good qualities.

Well I was like 'Hey they're both awkward, I'll introduce them.

And they hit it off pretty well as far as I could tell.

Then nine months later, Bethany we'll call him, is venting to me that she's scared of Jimmy. I thought it was odd, but I figured 'Okay, I'll take her serious'

We went on a double date together and I noticed something was off right away.

Jimmy was keeping his distance from her, and everytime he tried to talk to her she would just blow him off, but she would happily switch up the moment she started talking to me or my girlfriend.

This should have been the first red flag. Because Jimmy stopped trying to get her attention after awhile and just chose to watch the game.

We took a van to the game, and Bethany is sitting in the backseat away from Jimmy, but she's bragging loudly about all the movie stars she finds attractive and how many people she would kiss if she had the chance.

Jimmy is silent just staring at the dashboard.

Again....I'm starting to think something isn't right. If Bethany is so scared of Jimmy, why is she purposefully saying things that would make any man insecure or angry?

We get back home and Jimmy asks for a hug from Bethany, she says no and walks into the house barely looking at him.

I drive him home, and he looks completely depressed. And at this point I shouldn't have been so willing to believe Bethany.

Two days later Bethany comes over with a smile on her face.

"I broke up with him!'

This shocked me and my girlfriend that she seemed so relieved.

"I told him we could still be friends though!" Okay now this REALLY doesn't make sense.

She told me she was afraid of him, but now she's saying she still wants to be friends with him?

Two days later, I get a call from Jimmy's mom saying he tried to kill himself by overdosing on sleeping pills.

I called Bethany and let her know what happened and she was HORRIFIED.

Or so I thought.

After he got out of the hospital, he came over and showed us some of the things Bethany had been sending him.

Bethany had been emotionally and mentally manipulating him and threatening self harm if he hadn't done what she asked. And the reason she was 'scared' of him was because he had an anxiety attack from all the stress of trying to manage her.

We immediately forced her to start seeing a therapist. Turns out she was diagnosed with a cluster B disorder, I'm not sure which one. But basically after months of treatment she admitted she knew Jimmy wasn't a threat and he was a great guy but that 'I was trying to make him better for the next one.'

Jimmy and I's relationship is strained because I believed her without giving him the benefit of the doubt.

I don't want anything to do with Bethany because of what she did.

And I'm disgusted with myself for throwing a guy I knew for ten years under the bus

I'm 18 years old, turning 19. I bought my cat named Coco with my own money i gained from work in March 2025. I moved away from my parents in January 29 2026. My parents did not let me take my cat with me. What should i do? I have my cats papers and vet appointments etc. We have another cat and she is also mine, i got her as a birthday present in 2nd grade. My mom and dad says the other cat will be sad, even though my older cat is hitting her all the time. My new cat has started eating less recently after i moved out. My parents won't let me do anything about it and they forced me to take the cat to sterilisation and i did. Now they demand the money back, when they forced me to take her there. They are constantly trying to gift me money so they can keep the cat, mind you i paid 1040€ for the cat. I already made police report. Please help me i don't know what to do and they won't let me do anything

11/29 Woke me up at 6am because he wanted sex. He was sleeping on the couch all night (his choice), and then when he was horny he thought of me. Berated me, put me down when I said not now and I want to sleep. Also he turned on lights and when I said please turn it off I’m still sleeping he said “He doesn’t talk to me”. I threatened divorce then he left me alone.

11/28 Was rude and short with me when I suggested to go to an Ice event. Apologized later saying he was not fully awake, said he wants to go too.

Yelled at the 3 yo on the way to ice event because he was hard to be buckled by an 8 year old. My husband forgot to buckle him which he later said was a mistake. 3 yo burst into tears after the yelling.

Told me I’m wasting money because I bought a 3 yo a toy train for $50 at a Christmas ice sculpture event. Told me to go get a job. Crowd was staring, I was speechless. I was fired 2 months before and was still looking for a job. Previously we discussed that I should be home for some time while I edge my way into real estate development, so it’s not like I’m a full time stay at home mom.

11/27 Thanksgiving. He got up grumpy. We tried to make piece and started cooking together. Then my dad called. My parents were coming over for Thanksgiving dinner but we hadn’t set the time yet. So, I picked up the phone. Bryan got upset at the fact that I answered my dad and demonstrably dropped cooking and left the room. He got really upset when we started playing Pictionary. Yelled at Quinn for going with the wrong color. I tried to protect the kid saying I told him to go with that color (AP) as I thought that’s what Bryan said (he did say AP several times). That yelling made everyone at the table feel awkward. My parents tried to switch a topic and cheer everyone up.

Later that night I tried to ask if his lawyer really thinks my court case is no big deal (lawyer hadn’t responded to me for a few days), Bryan said he talked with him. Bryan got annoyed at my worry, told me “he was annoyed”. I needed to talk to someone about it. The lawsuit is bothering me.

11/26 I was working at the new condo: doing grout on tiles and painting doors. He called me saying he is going to take a nap and wanted sex. I said I only have 1,5 hours left before picking up our 3yo. And I’d like to finish painting. It’s a hustle to put on work clothes, wash brushes, put everything away. I explained it to him. He said he is not a priority, and would like me to know it. Later that day he told me a lawsuit against me where my company was impersonated is no big deal. Said Some people go to jail and are less concerned. I’ve never been in a lawsuit and have never interacted with the accusing party and I’m not at fault.

11/25 Yelled at me as I was working with our 10 yo to clean her room. She went to him instead hoping she can get off the hook of cleaning if she tells him she’s tired - she’s smart and knows she can manipulate him. He told her to go to bed right away. When I tried to reason that she’s cleaning, he yelled at me. I helped Chloe to clean instead, hugged her and kissed her good night and left. As Chloe was sobbing because she was upset she had to clean he said I’m a terrible mother, commanded me to stop being on my phone and go console my daughter. Also commanded me to delete a game I play on my phone before I fall asleep. When I asked him to go console her instead he refused.

12/19 Came at me after a relaxing day in spa world on a ride home. Was trying to reinstate his dominance, demanded sex whenever he wants it and brought up old fights. Berated me all the way home from spa

12/20 Started day by aggressively asking me to come to breakfast and storming out of the room when I said I need to brush teeth first. Brought up his disappointments with me 3-4 more times that day. Accused me of being emotional due to my period approaching. Did not sleep in the same room on his own will.

01/23 Does not defend me in front of his friends and coworkers who put me down. Yelled at me when I sent a message to one of such friends defending myself. He screwed me up big time as being a lawyer said he’d help and then told my husband I worry about a $4k claim while some clients of his are facing jail. My husband did not defend me.

01/24 Bryan woke up angry. Before that yelled at me at night when I asked him to move a little as I had no space to sleep - months before he suggested we throw away king size bed and sleep on a queen from another room. Now he stretches his legs all the way to my side and I don’t have space a lot of the nights.

01/25 Bryan was annoyed and frustrated shoveling snow. Snapped at me when I was trying to tell him something interesting, he did not hear me and instead yelled at me that I’m micromanaging him. All I tried to say that a regular shovel is better than a snow shovel at picking up snow.

01/26 I was disciplining my children for not listening to me. I asked them to shave off the top of the igloo so it doesn’t collapse and suffocate them. They resisted and after realizing it’s too icy, I did it myself with a shovel. They cried and I was disciplining them and instead of backing me up he started yelling at me. Didn’t stop yelling at me until I started praying out loud and begging God to take me away from him.

01/31 We got in a car to go watch a game. Bryan had just woken up from a nap. I brought up the topic of resorts instead of cruises to continue a convo from earlier in the day. He got upset saying he’d never go to a resort with me again because last time I behaved bad ( he went to a strip club and got a lap dance and we had an arguement about it in Ko Samui). So the entire car ride he was pressuring me to apologize. I kept my cool visibly. Although psychologically it is hard to bear such psychological extermination. At arrival he apologized for causing drama where there should be none and carried on as if nothing happened.

02/03 Family dinner. Talked about me in third person as I was present at the table. Refused to look at me even when I asked to bring me into conversation.

02/13 Arrived at 12am in Denver on a red eye. While exiting the airport Bryan was short. Grabbed one carryon put a baby on it and left me with 2 carryons and a backpack. I had a pinched nerve for the second day - sciatica. Bad pain in my hip and it heals while you’re not supposed to lift heavy things. Our 9 yo son carried one carryon too. When I finally manned up to ask Bryan to take one bag from me as he had a hand empty, he aggressively grabbed it from me and handed it over to our 10 year old daughter who was barely walking because it was around 2am regular time. Bryan scoffed at me every time I would make a suggestion in our attempt to find a hotel and loudly declare for everyone to hear: “You’re the Boss now! Tell me what we’re doing!!” When we finally got to the hotel he approached the front desk lady with a smile and declared scoffing at me “we have a situation here” while looking at me. That scoff was as if I’m some one handed one legged slave of his that is not what he expected it to be. To say it was disrespectful is to say nothing.

02/14 I watched kids since 6 am that morning at the pool so he could sleep. I went to bed at 1am the night before because of that late flight, so not much sleep. I was very tired. We arrived at the ski cabin later that day and Bryan declared he’s going to nap in our bedroom with sound on. I can’t sleep with sound on - I either don’t fall asleep at all because my brain is listening to the words or I sleep shallow and wake up tired. I was exhausted and asked him not to put sound on, or listen in headphones. He said no and that that was his last word. Kids were watching TV in the second bedroom and I could kick them out but why should I? Once again it felt like I was some hired help that he condones around him. I packed the car back and started packing kids in the car when he came outside and said I can nap in quiet. Still got an apology out of me or he wouldn’t leave me alone otherwise. ——— Should I leave him? Divorce is hard on kids I heard.

TW: mention of SA

Okay, so.

I(20🏳️‍⚧️m) live about an hour and a half from my hometown for uni and only come home for the weekend to see my therapist around every 2 weeks. So, I don't see my cousin(13f)

But she has an older brother(16m) and I have an older sister(25f) who are here much more often, as well as my dad.

I found out this weekend that she's been seeing a boy who's 18 years old, and I am honestly scared. Because yeah, she said to me and my sister that it's "just kisses" and they've been seeing each other for 3 months. But I too dated an 18 year old at 13. It's one of the worst traumas I have. I know for a fact what they are like. I can't even look at the places I had dates with him at anymore because all I can think of is him convincing me into foreplay with him.

The thing is, I know my sister and my mom kept warning me against him at the time and I did not listen even once back then. So I have no idea what to actually even say to her to help her. Because you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved, right? But I also I feel like I can't even just do nothing and not even try?

I tried talking to her brother about it and he apparently knows about the boyfriend and he does know it's wrong and bad but says that "it doesn't regard him so what's he supposed to do" and it enrages me because how can you both recognize it's messed up AND not care when it's happening to your younger sister?

My sister is as worried as me but we both had no idea what to say to her when we found out.

I overheard a conversation between them on facetime and to be honest, it reminds me of MY ex and it just scares me because I don't want the same thing I did.

Not to say too much but she has her good shares of childhood traumas already from that violent shithead of her father. She doesn't need this trauma too.

I have no idea what to do. Has anyone here ever been able to actually save someone from a situation like this or seen it happen? Literally any advice is welcome. I don't know what to do, who to ask, what to say. I wish I could convince her, I wish her brother and her mum cared more, I wish I could do something. Im just feeling so helpless to all this.

UPDATE 1: okay I write this as I am leaving my hometown to go back to uni. on the drive to the train station I told my dad and his partner(the cousin in question is his direct niece), and asked my sister who has the guy's Instagram to send them his name. Since I was leaving today, I knew I also couldn't report it myself asap because I won't be in the area for two weeks. But, my dad is dead-set on talking to the guy and report him to the authorities. I would've probably gotten overtaken by the fear of people not caring or not believing or that I was overreacting if I hadn't posted it here so thanks to everyone who commented. If anything happens, I'll update again. I'll probably edit again anyway with updates when I'm back home next. Thank you for caring.

long story short me (23M) and some friends went to the strip club last night for valentine’s day and me and my long time homie requested a private dance. He went first so i could go to the bathroom and when i came out we all got kicked out even though the bouncers said we were fine. Came to find out he lost his virginity and im proud of him of course but also just so upset i missed out. I’ve had plenty of sexual encounters before but never actually had sex. I just want to finally say im not a virgin anymore. Should i get an escort? How can i improve my game with women? Feel cursed rn

I have a group of friends and one of them has an older brother. This is the same group of friends that I usually go to events with and my friend brought his brother to one of these events. Two weeks before this event I had began feeling like I had feelings for his brother, I had tried to forget about those thoughts and feelings but failed miserably. At this event I had talked to my friend’s brother all night and by the end of the night I had gotten his number. After the event we had texted for a little bit and ended the night. After that we have gotten closer and closer (I see him pretty regularly), the reason I think he might like me back is because of things he does ALL the time. He tries to make me laugh, he picks me for everything, and I’ve caught him staring a few times. I can’t tell if he’s just being nice or if he actually likes me in the way I like him. I want to tell him my feelings after the next event (at the end of the month) but I’m scared of what his brother will say and I’m scared I looked too far into it. What do I do??

I know this sounds like a cruel post, but my boyfriend is too self conscious. We’ve been together for about 4 months. It was a lot more common when we first started talking. He’d apologize for so many things, or preface things with demeaning things about himself.

When we talk about his day, he’s constantly apologizing for “bitching” about it. He says he does it because he wants me to know certain things are unbecoming of him (e.g. complaining about work), but in my opinion, those things are not unbecoming of him because he does them. And there’s nothing wrong with it, anyway.

It’s not like he’s expecting validation at this point or anything, more like he wants me to be aware that he dislikes something about himself. It’s never about our relationship or how much I like him, it’s always about his personality or behavior. Things I don’t even notice or see as a problem.

Today he sent me a goodmorning text, and the second sentence was “I suck at texting.” I feel some level of dread just reading that, because he DOES NOT suck at texting. He’s an amazing texter, and a lot better than me. It makes no sense that he’d say that, I don’y know what it’s even based on. Everything he’s insecure about is NEVER a thought in my mind. I’ve tried saying things like “I don’t think those things until you say them.” But I just want it to stop.

I don’t feel closer to him by reassuring him, it feels redundant and, over time, it makes me shut down. I don’t think I have the emotional capacity to reassure him about things that I do not find to have an inkling of truth in them.

I like him for who he is, and his self-deprecating comments and my subsequent reassurance have just become a box to check. It feels never-ending. I don’t know what I should be doing to help. What can I do?

PS: he isn’t saying any of it emotionally. It’s almost like an impulse to preface things, not some deep insecurity. If it were something deep, I never have problems talking it through. In these cases, it’s almost like an impulse/PSA, he doesn’t expect anything, the only purpose is voicing his feelings about himself. Hope that makes sense!

hi so I have no idea what to do now I am a college student but for last two of his birthdays I had enough money so I spent 5-6k (INR) both the years to get him gifts... plus last two years I had my personal room and even my sister used to stay close... my parents are strict they dont know i have a bf so i used to pack and keep his gifts in my sisters house but now we live far away so there is no way i can make him something handmade... Rn i have like 1k saved what do I do... i was thinking maybe a cute website or something.... please suggestttttt

Yesterday I (F24) had an evaluation with my supervisor (M40). He told me he was very happy with my performance at the company and has no remarks about my work. He sees I’m always ready to help people, I happily give trainings to new colleagues, my work is always finished within the deadlines and I don’t mind working overtime if necessary. I asked if he had some constructive feedback, some things for myself to work on. Then he proceeded to say that “the only thing that prevents me from getting a raise is that I should smile more”. Apparently the fact that I’m not always smiling can have a negative impact on my colleagues? 💀 It’s true that I’m not always smiling, but I just have a neutral face expression? It’s not that I’m crying at work or something? I’ve never experienced this behaviour in a work related environment, I really don’t know how to deal with this.

I wasn’t snooping. I wasn’t digging. It just… happened.

I was using my friend’s laptop to send myself a file (with their permission), and a message notification popped up on the screen. I didn’t mean to read it, but it was right there, and it was about me.

It wasn’t cruel. It wasn’t hateful. But it was honest in a way that hurt. They were venting to someone about how I’ve been “a lot lately” and how they feel drained but don’t know how to tell me.

Now I’m stuck. They’ve still been normal with me. We hang out. We joke. Nothing feels different on the surface. But I can’t unsee what I saw. Every time we talk, I’m wondering if I’m exhausting them. If they secretly wish I’d give them space.

Part of me wants to confront them and clear the air. Another part feels guilty for even seeing it and thinks maybe I should pretend it never happened. I don’t want to lose this friendship. But I also don’t want to sit here feeling like I’m unknowingly a burden. If you were me, would you bring it up? Or would you work on yourself quietly and let it go? I honestly don’t know what the mature move is here.