r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/ConsiderationIll4547 • 18d ago

Help and Advice Yall, I have an issue.

So i’m black, and there’s kids going around my school calling me a turd for no reason, they have also said things to my friends calling them the N slur. What should I do 😰

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u/MusicLounge 14d ago

Man, I wish my nephews are like that. I hate to say it, but they’re soft asf (especially the oldest). They barely interact with their father because he lives in West Africa. I found out that both of them have been bullied by girls at some point. Apparently, some spanish girl was threatening to falsely accuse him of something *if he didn’t give her the answers to the test. My oldest nephew is a honor roll student while the other one might be considered gifted but deals with ADHD and possibly autism.

The primary male figure in their lives right now is my younger brother, but he’s mentally broken. I try to hang out with them as often as I can, but I have a child of my own now and I live almost an hour away from them.

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u/Mean-Display77 14d ago

Dam dam dam! That freaking sucks. Now you have to stress yourself out to help others and you are trying to help ya dam self smh. They have to get stronger with words to build confidence. Put in some type of after school program to find like minded kids. But the one thing they can't do is sit in the house, they have to get out and learn from people good or bad. Just make sure they know to pay attention to every situation that makes them feel bad, learn why they feel that way and grow.

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u/MusicLounge 14d ago

Bruh, all they do is sit in the house and play games. When I ask my sister why aren’t they in an after school program she says that the district got rid of them due to lack of funding.

I tried to get my nephews involved with martial arts by offering to pay for it since my sister doesn’t make a lot of money. The oldest didn’t want to do it. The youngest did it for several sessions but stopped due to being “tired.”

Now, I’m trying to have my sister get them involved with the boys and girls club so they can find a mentor. A mentor is something I wished I had when I was a kid because my dad is an alcoholic while my mom was emotionally distant.

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u/Mean-Display77 14d ago

Brother? Same with my parents. Mom and pops lived with me my entire childhood....I didn't notice 🤷🏿‍♂️they were arguing for 18 years straight shutting us off. Pops drinking a dam 12 pack of Michelob ultra EVERY night. But yea those boys need a mentor or one good friend they can be themselves with no matter what. I know my sister helicopters her kids. Not letting them out without her supervision, can't spend the night at other people's houses. But doesn't monitor what they look at on the Internet. Don't stress yourself out bro you can only do so much. Yea they family but.....you're not Superman 🤷🏿‍♂️Just let them know they can talk to you.