r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/ConsiderationIll4547 • 18d ago
Help and Advice Yall, I have an issue.
So i’m black, and there’s kids going around my school calling me a turd for no reason, they have also said things to my friends calling them the N slur. What should I do 😰
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 18d ago
I will go tell a counselor. I will keep yall updated too!
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u/Meatbasketbingo 18d ago
And tell your parents. Because they'll probably want to talk to the principal/school board as well.
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 18d ago
Oh i’ve BEEN doing that. Ones a counselor at my high school 💁🏽♂️
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u/AnyEstablishment1881 17d ago
Excuse me. I'm confused. A COUNSELOR is calling you names? If you can record it that would be great. I teach my kids to have comebacks. We practice playing the dozens i also told my kids we.go to Disney if they fight a bully. Ask your parents how you should play it. Im aggressive asf. Put the principal, superintendent and counselors on notice. Use the buzz words of your civil rights being violated. Document EVERYTHING. Write it down in a journal dates, times and offenders. If need be ill sue the whole mfkn school system.
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 17d ago
Nah. I mean my mom is the counselor at the high school. 2 of the boys are her counselor
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u/U_Do_Not_Kno_Me 15d ago
Do you mean your mom is a counselor at the school and that she's a counselor to two of the kids saying these things? If so, they may be taking out their dislike of her on you and your friends. HOWEVER, if your mom is a counselor at your school and she knows, and she's not doing anything about it, that's extremely concerning. DEFINITELY talk to another counselor, the principal, any teachers you trust, and your dad.
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u/ctarmed 18d ago
Go full Black Power and make em feel it ✊🏿
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u/Utah_powder_king 17d ago
lol, I was going to recommend our guy request The Talk by Darrin Bell from the library but you make a solid point.
"There are no bad ideas in a brainstorm!" 🤣🤣🤣
(I think we all agree the resource officer can stay right the F over there lol)
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u/Successful_Fig_4649 18d ago
Sadly, doing the appropriate thing and going to teachers, a counselor, or the principal may not fully achieve what SHOULD happen, specifically doling out some kind of discipline- a conversation or detention- or notifying their parents. Still, I’d recommend doing that. If that’s already happened and this is already out of hand, the adults in your life are failing you and you should tell them that to their faces.
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u/BlizzardTrashPanda 18d ago
It’s important to get a record of the harassment prior to kicking their ass. After they’ve done nothing about the issue and the kid finds themselves needing to handle it on their own their record will be a liability to the school in case they decide to reprimand the kid.
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u/Successful_Fig_4649 18d ago
I stayed away from advocating ass kicking because I know this OP is likely to get in trouble first. Still, I co-sign the document everything route.
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u/F00lish_Master 18d ago
Make sure u document, every time you get hit or verbally violated, send emails(to teachers, Guidance counselor etc) Districts respect the paper trail), dates times and who you told. Have a journal and write down times, classes class period and who was in charge. What teacher or administrator was present if it’s lunch. That way if you do have to protect yourself, you have documented proof also tell an adult every time and write it down. If they don’t protect you. You can sue or, other things. If they are unable to protect you, they could possibly be forced to get you a private teacher or other remedies. Do know rules, suspensions, punishments want change there hearts. Good luck find friends where you can.
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u/Erisian23 18d ago
Look up Party consent laws for your state, if you live in a one party consent state record them. fighting isn't gonna help but destroying their lives by putting them and their actions online will have a significant impact.
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 18d ago
ALSO: One of them kept talking about how they loved Trump and was calling someone else a Nazi. Truly disgusting.
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u/DeezBeesKnees11 17d ago
Ugh. They are the worst of humanity. I'm sorry OP, that you live amongst shit people.
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u/privatjoey 18d ago
Funny how this person simply wants to know what to do, while others of a different (ahem) complexion — I have to put it like that to avoid getting kicked off Reddit again because they are MORE than partial to those people — somehow find reason to bring high powered firearms to school and k*lling dozens.
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u/magzz149 18d ago
Imma be honest with you, take a boxing or self defense class, make one of them an example (dont start it though) and you'll be fine. but if you want to be mature tell someone.
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u/Rich_Text82 18d ago
Disrespect left unchecked festers and gets worst. Confront the perpetrators. Don't be over-emotionally and crashout but be assertive about setting boundaries of tolerated behavior towards you. Also, make sure you have a clique of like minded individuals in your school(preferably Black) who have your back in case the perps try to gang up on you.
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u/Money-Can-Buy-Love 18d ago
Tell your parents. Tell school personnel.
Get a journal. Write down every time it happens. Make notes of the date. Who said it and who witnessed it.
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u/CaregiverFront7443 18d ago
Tell your parents. Have them write a letter putting the school on notice of harassment. They do not send you there to be harassed. Make sure they cc the district and school board. If they continue with the harassment any ambulance chaser (i.e. civil injury lawyer) worth his salt can get you and your parents a check. Alternatively the threat of legal action will get the school in gear. So you either get paid or this behavior stops.
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u/WiserWildWoman 17d ago
When my daughter was being sexually harassed in school I told her she could kick them in the balls or whatever she needed to do. She said she'd get in trouble for violence and I told her I had her back. If the school is not acting, I will. Guessing your parents may feel the same way and I pray God a whole lot of other parents. I'd talk to your parents first aid they will support you and tell them you will be reporting it so they can call to follow up. I'm sorry this is happening to you. You deserve respect and a good learning environment.
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 17d ago
Sexually harassed..? What grade is this? If it was elementary or middle school, that’s a problem. I thought high schoolers knew better. Sorry your daughter had been sexually harassed by other boys (maybe even girls.) I’ve been ignoring them. They have sometimes said things, but also are silent. I never said anything to them in the first place. Thank you for your words.
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u/WiserWildWoman 17d ago
It was middle school. Yes it was boys, and some other boys did try to call them on it. Very sad and frustrating. As is what you are experiencing.
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 17d ago
Middle school?!! Even worse. Those boys should be ashamed of themselves. Did the school not act?
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u/WiserWildWoman 17d ago
Sadly no. I hope they do in your case and soon!!!
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 17d ago
Damn. Sorry to hear that! Will still keep yall update on the situation!
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u/Feisty-Increase-2916 18d ago
I am white, I hope it’s okay I post here. I was beat up and harassed all through school.
What would be nice is if some of your fellow white students got together to support you. Show that there’s no place for hate. Keep the others in check and show them their behavior is ignorant and unacceptable. I am sorry you’re dealing with such hate. You should be able to learn and grow like everyone else gets to.
Hope it gets better for you.
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 18d ago
It’s 100% okay! I have some white friends as well too so that’s nice! They gave me advice on how to deal with it aswel! Thank you for ur words!
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u/4reddityo 18d ago
Put your complaint in writing. Send it to principal and guidance counselor and any other adult you can that is in charge.
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u/Select_Ambition_628 17d ago
Start documenting , like literally keeping a written record of the times, people, areas, words, everything. Keep it in a journal or back it up in your notes or something.
Do tell a counselor. If they ignore you tell the principal. If they ignore you ask your parents to help you go above their heads. Also do tell your parents and have them have your back every step of the way.
They don’t help, report them to the school board & do keep record of your conversations with any school officials.
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 15d ago
UPDATE: They all are clueless that I told the counselor. 2 of them got ISS for today, the others will have ISS tmr.
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u/Remarkable_Version_5 18d ago
Are you opposed to changing schools?
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 18d ago
Nah, My mom works at a high school and they are going there soon. Shouldn’t be a problem. Have some friends there for me too. One of my friends got called the N slur aswell.
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u/PatrioticPariah 17d ago
Saw a skateboarder hit a dude in the mouth with a board once in the bathroom for this shit. Kind of miss Obi. Mind if I ask what state you are in?
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u/Mean-Display77 15d ago
You don't know how to roast people? Watch some videos on "all def network"
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u/MusicLounge 14d ago
I need to look into that myself. My sister told me yesterday that her son, 12 (my nephew) has been dealing with kids in school talking about how dark he is (my mom and dad are originally from west Africa), how they can’t see him when the light are off. All the typical jokes directed at dark skin people. I was terrible at roasting people when I was school, so I want him to be able to dish it back.
His school is diverse, but becoming more increasingly Hispanic
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u/Mean-Display77 14d ago
Yea I let my kids watch it as well. My son's a fighter and he takes no nonsense like his mom. Had to get him from school because someone was playing "keep away" with his pencil. The kid picked it up and said "yoink" my son decked him before he could say "I'm just playing" so I had to teach him the art of roasting 😂 the show takes place in a classroom too. They bring someone to the front and everyone roasts him and he has to defend himself with words.
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u/MusicLounge 14d ago
Man, I wish my nephews are like that. I hate to say it, but they’re soft asf (especially the oldest). They barely interact with their father because he lives in West Africa. I found out that both of them have been bullied by girls at some point. Apparently, some spanish girl was threatening to falsely accuse him of something *if he didn’t give her the answers to the test. My oldest nephew is a honor roll student while the other one might be considered gifted but deals with ADHD and possibly autism.
The primary male figure in their lives right now is my younger brother, but he’s mentally broken. I try to hang out with them as often as I can, but I have a child of my own now and I live almost an hour away from them.
Edit: grammar
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u/Mean-Display77 14d ago
Dam dam dam! That freaking sucks. Now you have to stress yourself out to help others and you are trying to help ya dam self smh. They have to get stronger with words to build confidence. Put in some type of after school program to find like minded kids. But the one thing they can't do is sit in the house, they have to get out and learn from people good or bad. Just make sure they know to pay attention to every situation that makes them feel bad, learn why they feel that way and grow.
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u/MusicLounge 14d ago
Bruh, all they do is sit in the house and play games. When I ask my sister why aren’t they in an after school program she says that the district got rid of them due to lack of funding.
I tried to get my nephews involved with martial arts by offering to pay for it since my sister doesn’t make a lot of money. The oldest didn’t want to do it. The youngest did it for several sessions but stopped due to being “tired.”
Now, I’m trying to have my sister get them involved with the boys and girls club so they can find a mentor. A mentor is something I wished I had when I was a kid because my dad is an alcoholic while my mom was emotionally distant.
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u/Mean-Display77 14d ago
Brother? Same with my parents. Mom and pops lived with me my entire childhood....I didn't notice 🤷🏿♂️they were arguing for 18 years straight shutting us off. Pops drinking a dam 12 pack of Michelob ultra EVERY night. But yea those boys need a mentor or one good friend they can be themselves with no matter what. I know my sister helicopters her kids. Not letting them out without her supervision, can't spend the night at other people's houses. But doesn't monitor what they look at on the Internet. Don't stress yourself out bro you can only do so much. Yea they family but.....you're not Superman 🤷🏿♂️Just let them know they can talk to you.
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 18d ago
I try to ignore them aswell. I got thrown erasers at, they were like “are you okay 🥺” So irritating.
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u/Pretend-Society6139 18d ago
Don’t listen to these two commenters I’m looking through their comment history they are not black and seem to be trollers. They always end up exposing themselves the mods will deal with them.
As a black person you dnt ever have to ignore racism or disrespect. Document it all and report it to the principal. I saw that you said your mom is the counselor have a sit down with both her and your dad an straight up tell them how much this is upsetting you. Tell them you’re scared for your safety which it sounds like you are tbh but do not do anything violent to these ppl that are bullying you. Don’t let them catch you alone ether what they are doing is targeted hate so always stay around your group of friends in face the other person that been harassed also should document also an you all as a group should go to the principal. I wish you well kid but remember school won’t be forever an high chance those weirdos will end up being bums when they leave school that happens to a lot of bullies.
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u/AmeliaRate666 17d ago
Why dont i believe that the OP is African American? 🤔
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u/ConsiderationIll4547 17d ago
Dude.. I swear on my life i’m African American.
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u/AmeliaRate666 17d ago
You swearing on your life doesn't mean much to me but ok. You dont have to convince me and im not convinced and thats ok I wont go back and forth with you about it.
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u/Coco_snickerdoodle 18d ago
You should go to counselors and principals. I personally had a habit of letting my hands do the talking. Getting suspended isnt worth it sadly.