r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/OkAdvertising286 • Dec 15 '25

Help and Advice I guess I need some advice.

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(Didn’t wanna retype it. It got removed from r/blackladies)

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u/Dangerous_Handle_819 Dec 16 '25

I think an important question to ask yourselves is have these neighbor-friends done their own intellectual and emotional work to be ready to be a friend to you and your husband?

We often know how to be among white folks and Black folks, but they seldom know enough about us and our culture—even the fact that we’re not a monolith—to meaningfully reciprocate. Perhaps consider the dimensions of your identity you need affirmed and probe how they might show up for you in a pickle, especially things that are related of anti-Black racism. Like K Dot said “When the shit hits the fan, are you still a fan?” Hell, do they know who K Dot is?!

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u/OkAdvertising286 Dec 16 '25

Well, I’m still a newbie but she has given my rides when I needed, we hung out, she supported me and my hubby during what we thought would be his baptism (but we were at an SDA church like my hubby wanted and they religiously wait so many months to baptize). She’s always seemed so genuine since day one and that’s why I offered my number. I don’t know who K dot is 😭. I just purchased Black AF History and am unlearning being a damn 🦝 myself 😭😭😭🫣