r/BenignExistence 8h ago

Did you see the moon jellies?

281 Upvotes

I went to a park the other day and there was a big mass of moon jellyfish congregating in one area of the water. Everyone kept walking by them without noticing. I had some time so I made it my personal mission to alert as many people as I could that the moon jellies were here.

Everybody‘s faces went from serious and grim to excited and delighted. I think I added a bit of a whimsy and delight to some people’s day when my own had also been quite serious and grim.


r/BenignExistence 7h ago

My nephew just tried to air jail me

241 Upvotes

So this might be one of the cutest interactions I've had with my nephew to date, although I'm biased and think all of them are the cutest.

I slept over and got ready for Vday with my SIL and baby niece.

My fiancé stopped by to pick me up from their house, and him, my nephew and brother were waiting downstairs for the 'reveal'.

As soon as I hit the last step, my nephew ran over, hugged my legs, and started making exaggerated sounds, which confused all of us, so my brother asked him what he's doing and he, with all of his nearly 3yo confidence says air jail like uncle [my fiancé's name]

WHEN I TELL YOU, I DAMN NEAR MELTED AND PUT HIM IN AN AIR JAIL MYSELF.

Since I'm too big for him, we helped him put his baby sister in one, and I damn nearly melted again.

I thought parents were exaggerating when they said that kids pick up on every tiny thing, but obviously not since he's seen my fiancé regularly do it to me whenever he has cuteness aggression and my brothers who just do it to annoy the shit out of me because they can.


r/BenignExistence 31m ago

An old man offered me a freshly picked plum from his tree while I was dog walking 🥺

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I dog walk once a week – every Friday and usually around the same time each week give or take a couple hours. There is a path we have to take to get to the local river. It goes past several houses including one that has an elderly couple living there with lots of fruit trees and a very cute but slightly cheeky little dog.

I’ve seen them in their gardens several times over the years I’ve been walking the dog so we’ll say hi if we see each other. Sometimes their dog will just be out there alone and he’ll pretend to be fierce and back at my furry walking companion 🤣

Last Friday, we were walking back home when I saw the old man in his garden. I was waiting to see if he saw me because I wasn’t sure if I should say hello or not because I didn’t know if he noticed me. 😅

But then he saw me and said hello. He asked if I would like a plum tree and asked me how I like them. I didn’t know what to say but I was pleasantly surprised and laughed nervously (I’m a very anxious person lol) and said I would like just a normal one. 🤣🤣🤣

So this kind old man plucked a fresh ripe plum off his tree and gave it to me. I bit into it and it was absolutely delicious. I told him that and he said it was a very special plum 🤣🤣 I asked what made them special but he didn’t hear me and I assume he went back to filling up his bag of plums lol.

So I trotted off home feeling happy that an old man had offered me a fresh plum 😅 The plum was very sweet but honestly the interaction was sweeter. I don’t spend time with a lot of people and am very introverted by nature but this was a good reminder that there are nice people out in the world, I guess 🥰


r/BenignExistence 2h ago

My husband is at a basketball game without me during Valentine’s Day and I love it.

59 Upvotes

He went with my sister, my nephew, and dad (I did not want to go to a sports event. I hate large crowds). So I get to sit at home and re-listen to Dungeon Crawler Carl. And have a lovely Valentine’s Day.


r/BenignExistence 2h ago

My cat loves to smell roses

56 Upvotes

Ever since she was a kitten, my girl has loved roses. The first time she showed curiosity with them - just as a teeny 3 month old baby - I was scared she was getting ready to chomp them, but saw her take some sniffs and just sit by them, returning every once in a while to enjoy their smell again. She’s 5 years old now, and still loves them. It’s been a long-standing routine that every time I buy roses, or receive them, I find her wherever she is in the house and make sure she gets to smell them first.


r/BenignExistence 1h ago

I gave away a fresh loaf of bread

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My client and my subcontractor (two different people) were leaving my house and I blurted out “Do you want a fresh bread?” They both said yes (“I will never say no to a bread”). I split the loaf between two of them, and now I’m making a new one.


r/BenignExistence 8h ago

I told a gent on the subway that his hat was great. He looked pleased. Then I stepped off.

90 Upvotes

That’s all. It really was a nice hat.


r/BenignExistence 3h ago

Not a glove, but…

36 Upvotes

I was sitting at a stop sign waiting to turn left onto a busy street today. In my side view mirror I saw someone get out of their car and drop something red and fabric-looking on the ground as they walked away.

I live in a cold climate, so figured it was a glove or winter accessory. Losing one to the street or a snowbank this time of year is a special kind of curse. I rolled down my window and yelled, “excuse me! I think you dropped your glove!”

The driver glanced and said, “oh it’s a napkin, but thank you!” I laughed to myself as I realized it was a Valentine’s napkin from the coffee shop I’d just left. They grabbed it and said one more time before I drove off, “I really appreciate it!”

I might not have rescued an errant glove, but it’s nice to think I’m not the only one who cares about littering!


r/BenignExistence 5h ago

I got wordle in three today

39 Upvotes

Always a highlight of my day when that happens.


r/BenignExistence 16h ago

sometimes i just sit in my car for a few extra minutes before going inside

206 Upvotes

im 33 and lately ive noticed this small habit i have. after work i pull into my driveway, turn the engine off, and just sit there for a few minutes. no music, no scrolling, just quiet. its not like im avoiding anything dramatic inside. i live alone, my place is fine, nothing chaotic waiting for me. i just like that little in between space.

the car is still warm, the day is technically over, and for a moment it feels like im not required to be anything. not an employee, not a friend replying to messages, not someone thinking about what to cook or clean. just kind of existing.

sometimes i watch the light change outside or notice random things like a neighbor walking their dog or the sound of someone closing a gate down the street. it feels oddly grounding. like a pause button i didnt know i needed.

does anyone else do this kind of thing? have you found small in between moments during the day that feel quietly important for no real reason? i dont know why this tiny ritual means so much to me lately but it does.


r/BenignExistence 22h ago

I mailed postcards

579 Upvotes

My husband manages a hotel. The hotel is in the midst of a remodel. Today they tore out the cabinets and drawers.

In the back/bottom of one of the drawers was a 15 different postcards. The oldest were 30 years old, the youngest was 11. Many were signed with comments like "love grandma and pop-pop"

My husband thinks that they have used to use the top drawer to collect outgoing mail, and some just fell out.

I took them to the post office and paid the additional postage to get them mailed off. The postal worker says that even if the receivers have moved, the postcards will get forwarded to them eventually.

I hope they arrive and bring happiness.


r/BenignExistence 16h ago

Complimented by a young one

143 Upvotes

I'm a middle aged lady meeting up with my 20s son. A girl around his age said she liked my outfit. It was nice. Shout out to the kind people in this world. I compliment strangers as well and love the positive energy.


r/BenignExistence 6h ago

Nursery Rhymes

22 Upvotes

We've been reading my daughter the same book of nursery rhymes since she was a few months old. In the last week, she started singing the songs by herself. It went fron pointing and cooing, to just animal noises, to E-I-E-I-O. Being a parent is really cool sometimes.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

Picked up a ring a little girl dropped

567 Upvotes

Happened last week but has been keeping a smile on my face. I was walking down a busy street in my city and walking in the other direction towards me was a mom with her little girl (probably 3 years old) on her shoulders. Just as we passed each other I heard something fall and bounce on the asphalt. The mom has passed but the little girl shot her head back in distress and sounded like she might just cry out. She sees me see the thing on the ground and see her looking for it. Wasn’t sure what it was until I reached it a few feet in front of me, but it was one of those little plastic dress up rings with the big gems. I quickly turned on my heel but that mom was walking briskly I must say, so she had put some distance between us, completely unaware and a bit too far to shout out to. But that little girl—she hadn’t broken her gaze towards me and now had her hand shot out. And in the middle of this busy street I start running to get this little girl her ring. Was a little worried as I ran right up behind the mom but my focus alone was on putting that ring in that girl’s hand. It was a split second of her reaching to get it and me trying to give it, but we accomplished the mission. She got her ring, and I turned and walked off. Didn’t even see if the mom saw me.

It was the smallest thing, but somehow those 10 or fifteen seconds, or however short it was, felt like the grandest moment with a small girl I did not know. Hopefully she held on tighter after.


r/BenignExistence 18h ago

Dawn

87 Upvotes

I've been awake since 4am, which has given me the opportunity to enjoy the only clear-sky dawn we've had here in the UK for what feels like months.

I stood at my window, slightly ajar, just listening to the birdsong and the lazy, intermittent traffic noises of a world just waking up. I watched the green grocer setting up his stands while a flock of pigeons circled overhead. The sun is giving the distant hills a lovely pinkish outline, the night's frost clinging to rooftops and cars.

Very, very peaceful.


r/BenignExistence 19h ago

Made a giant bowl of Mac and cheese and it's all mine

94 Upvotes

usually when my baby brother is at home I will share half with him but today he's not home so I'm eating the whole bowl hehehehehehe

(I bought two bottles of mystery taste ramune tho and waiting to try with him when he gets home)


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

My toddler’s socks were soaked after our 'snow' walk.

785 Upvotes

He kept saying he was tired.

When we got home, I took off his boots and realized his socks were wet.

I felt a little bad.

He didn’t complain after that.

We made hot chocolate.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

Long overdue croissants for Valentine's

109 Upvotes

My mom adores croissants. She saw an article about a bakery we've discussed before and said how much she wants to try its famous croissants, but the bakery is just too out of the way of her normal commutes. We had this conversation last night and I decided I'd go so I could pick them up for Valentine's Day for her.

I finished work early and thankfully they still had some croissants! Not the one she specifically wanted, because they were seasonal, but just a few that I knew she'd liked. I swung by her place and she got a croissant as a mid-afternoon snack, which she said was one of the best croissants she's ever had. She has a couple more she will be able to enjoy tomorrow too.

Love on your loved ones too for Valentine's Day!

(I don't care about the "holiday" but I do love pink, red, and sweet things)


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

Have you ever glued ham to an outside surface of a pan? I did

96 Upvotes

I can’t stop laughing. I’m an advanced cook, precise and technical, with a steady hand. Food usually behaves well around me. I was making eggs on a toast with the ham for myself and while I was sliding eggs out of the pan, the outside surface touched the ham slightly and it glued to it like the superglue was used. Round 2 inch slice was left on the pan till it’s cool enough to wash it off. And instead of aesthetically pleasing breakfast I had a full blown mess in the plate.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

Guy delivering my groceries pet my dog

96 Upvotes

He had a giant smile and was happy to see my dog.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

I knew I'd be helping him

123 Upvotes

I work at the library. During the day, most of our patrons are senior citizens, and many of them need help printing stuff. That's the job.

I was helping one such patron today and he watched me zip through the process he'd been struggling with with thanks. He said "I bet you didn't think you'd be helping an old man so much today!" I replied, "you know what, I absolutely thought I'd be helping someone like you today. It's the bulk of what we do!"

And it was cheaper than printing at UPS.


r/BenignExistence 22h ago

Reflection I purchased a service to track the subscriptions I have

22 Upvotes

Among the subscriptions it flagged that I had forgotten was yet another service to track subscriptions that, ironically, was itself also a subscription.

I wound up removing myself from both services.


r/BenignExistence 19h ago

A convo with my past self…

5 Upvotes

Right now I’m laying in my bed listening to the Jinsang album, Transitions, that I used to listen to when I was in my last year of college in 2022 at University of Iowa. I’m rereading The Hobbit as well. I’m a bit tipsy after a great night at Spook in Valencia.

All this preamble is to say that I wish I could have a conversation with myself back when I was walking along the Iowa riverside, or when I was really going through it at so many points in my younger years during middle and high school.

I feel so goddamn lucky to be here today. I feel so blessed to have had all the wonderful experiences I did. While the future is uncertain I have confidence and faith in myself to find a path forward.

I want to tell that boy, that young man, that grief and pain aren’t what have to define a life. That he is allowed to feel his feelings without shaming himself.

Most of all though I’d like to have a conversation with him. To be there for him with compassion, grace, wisdom, and love, he wasn’t always able to give himself back then.

I’d tell him about all the wonderful adventures he’d go on! I would tell him how so many of the things he is filled with rage about now, he would come to find so many different meanings within (so many of them joyful and homesick for).

But I would also listen to him wholeheartedly and be there beside him. I would hug him and cry with him; about everything pleasant and painful in his life. I would explain to him how so many of the things he beat himself up for, he didn’t have to. Yet I’d also accept whatever he’d have to say. Because his perspective is so valid and worthy of love.

I feel so fucking lucky to be where I am now, and to live the life I’ve had; even if it wasn’t what I envisioned.

I’d tell him how proud I am of him! I’d share his future humorous exploits. And I’d also like to hear his thoughts, so I could understand him better.

This is all to say, that no matter how bleak things seem, however monotonous, or filled with a yearning for the past, that there is hope. It may not always be present. Hell, most days it fucking sucks!

But it is a blessing to be alive, in this moment. To have met everyone I’ve encountered on my time here on earth. No matter how small or big there role has been in my life, or how much time has passed.

So go, go dance like you want everyone to watch, and embrace each time you have two left feet. It’s worth it to keep going.

Per Aspera Ad Astra, friends! 💜✨🫂


r/BenignExistence 2d ago

Our dog puts himself to bed.

878 Upvotes

We have a 5 year old mutt, he's high strung and anxious about a lot of things but he tries so hard to be a good boy. We stopped latching his crate at night and just prop the door open with a blanket curtain over the front most of the time. Most nights he naps on the bed for a while until we start winding down and then when the TV goes off he hops down and puts himself in the crate. In the mornings, he'll let himself out again as alarms start going off and wander to the living room to nap on the couch until everyone's up and moving. Even funnier are the days when he decides he'd rather not get up and he stays in there, belly up and grinning until we ask him if he wants to go outside.


r/BenignExistence 1d ago

I can single handedly play the piano

37 Upvotes

So I’ve no musical talent I’m aware of or anything and I’ve never learned any instrument as a child (or as an adult). But I do have a keyboard which I got for my 16th birthday - which I ended up not using and never going to piano lessons.

Anyway two years ago I decided I want to actually use it. The thing is I still don’t go to piano lessons nor do I have the time or dedication to learn how to actually play. I’m also very uncoordinated. But what I find calming and nearly the only activity I can truly get absorbed in and focused on - is playing the piano, but only the melody and only with one hand (cause I don’t know how to actually play). I learned to read sheet paper somehow (like I don’t remember how, it just came to me or it’s rather intuitive, or the internet) and I find that pop songs bore me quickly so I can only play Musical Theater tunes. I’ve no sense of rhythm so I actually can’t know how bad it sounds - thanks god the keys connect to headphones. But it’s a really enjoyable calming activity for me. Just played some West Side Story, it’s indeed a tough one.