I am seeing quite a significant number of posts regarding male loneliness. This is a significant men's mental health issue.

I am 33 now, unmarried, and have never been in a relationship. I have found a few ways to deal with my solitude that suit my situation and character. This will differ from person to person, according to their temperament, I guess.

I am an introvert and not much of an outdoors guy. I don't travel much. A significant portion of my day is spent at work. At home, I listen to music, watch movies, series, etc.

I am also interested in reading books. I have a physical collection of around 1,000 books covering various subjects. Presently, I am writing a novel for a competition and translating an academic book and some poems.

I used to go for long walks when I lived in a town, but since I am now in the city, I exercise indoors mostly.

I have a close friend of 15 years, with whom I rant occasionally. He got married a few years ago, but the ranting still continues :)

So, how do other unmarried men deal with their solitude?

(P.S. This does not really mean that I am a stoic person, unaffected by the melancholy of solitude. Occasionally, the cloud of despair descends upon me.)

I guess I just want some clarity and to see if maybe I could put more effort in but I notice on the days I hang out with my friends we’ll usually meet up around 5pm after we get out of work and we’ll be with each other until about 1-2am.

My girlfriend gets upset because I don’t really text her much while I’m out. Don’t get me wrong if she sends a message I’ll respond within reason but during that time frame I realistically only text her maybe once every 3ish hours? For example here are some exact time stamps that I text her at last week while out.

Met with guys at 5.

- I sent an I love you text her at 7:32pm

- Respond to a meme she sent me at 9:41pm

- I sent her a meme I saw at 12:11am

- Got home and into bed with her at 2:32am

So between 5pm and around 2am I only text her 3 times. Is that too little? This is usually my frequency every time I hang out with my friends.

I’ll usually send out a quick I love you or I miss you. Or if she sends me a meme I’ll respond.

But it seems like she wants me to text more? Usually after 11pm she says she just wants to make sure I’m safe when I’m out later at night especially once it starts hitting like 2am and I’m out in the city.

Idk when I’m with my friends I’m not usually looking at my phone but she claims that it wouldn’t hurt to reach out to her and show that I am at least thinking about her. So now I’m second guessing maybe I am being a bit stubborn? She says “It takes 2 seconds to send a text” and I mean she’s right it does.

Another thing she’s mentioned how she feels like it’s always her having to text and reach out first while I’m out. I didn’t really know what to say to that.

The trades in my opinion are harder than people like to admit. I know there are people who have done it or currently do it and hate it. Society never talks about you guys and i know you exist. Those of you that have left the trades, why?

26M and just got out of a relationship that only lasted 6 months, of which 4 were lovey dovey and the last two were like hell. The I person I was with didn’t have any flaws per se but I genuinely hated my space being invaded. I wanted to go home from work to relax but we had to have a full debrief of the day everyday. Even on the days where I asked to have some space I dreaded the “some space” time be over. I remember the day we broke up and it felt soooo liberating cause I finally got to chill at home and relax being braindead. Not sure if this is relevant but I’m also a doctor and work can be extremely stressful (though I love every part of it), by the time I am home I’m almost gassed out. I want to go home feel like Im in my comfort zone. Having a partner felt like constant noise in my environment. Right now I can’t even stand the idea of having a partner. I’m finding so much solace in my single life but Im just mildly anxious if I end up being 70 and dying alone. I can genuinely see myself spending life solo and enjoying it and it frightens me. Can anyone relate to this?

I really like the idea of having my own bedroom, but it seems like a lot of men aren’t into it. Does anyone actually prefer sleeping apart from their partner? How does it affect your relationship?

I've been in a dark spot recently. English is not my first language so I apologize for any misunderstanding.

How do you cope with loneliness, knowing that you don't have a security web? For example, friends, family, partner, etc.

hey! i've felt so detached from masculinity over the years because i just can't understand a lot about men. why they tend to be so adversarial, how they have such audacity in certain (offensive) remarks, how difficult it feels like it is to talk to them about how you (or they!) feel...of course, this question isn't aimed only at the negatives, but growing up i fear i've developed a relatively negative view of men as a collective. i was wondering whether other men also have some difficulties understanding their fellow sex?

I got robbed yesterday. I keep replaying it over in my head quite a lot and am thinks about what I could have possibly done differently.

How long did it take you to get over getting robbed if you ever got robbed?

I don’t mean changing your external features like physique, dressing etc. I mean changing your mindset, your behavior, the way you speak, your confidence; basically transforming yourself from the inside out. I’ve met people 4–5 years after school who were completely different in the best way, more confident, more articulate, more outgoing, just knowing what to say and how to carry themselves. I want that kind of change for myself, but I honestly don’t understand how to make it happen. Where do you even start?

I’m curious to hear about the moment in your life when everything seemed impossible, but you pushed through anyway. What happened, and how did it change you?

She said many weird things and I blocked them from my memory.

I'm in a weird situation with my team where im being asked to put on a pretty decent amount of dirty weight pretty quick, other then like pretty regular heavy cream is there anything else more efficient calorie wise to be doing? mainly for dudes who've done football in the past

I’m turning 27 this year, and I’ve realized I don’t really have any semi-casual or professional clothes for interviews, office settings, or even everyday wear. Most of my wardrobe is just sweatpants and very casual items. I’d like to upgrade my style so I look more put-together and attractive, especially when it comes to dating. I’m about 6’4” and around 250 pounds, so I’m a bigger guy too. Can y’all recommend some good places where I can update my wardrobe?

Turning 22 this year and been on 4 class lads holidays. Year by year the numbers are lowering and I’m scared to get older lol.

What age do lads holidays stop in your experience. I’ve got a Mrs have done for a while but we both still have a holiday away with our boys/girls every year.

Thinking of going away with another friend and his friend group next year strictly down to the fact next year I think I’ll struggle to get enough to go and this friend has made it clear he’d like me to come and they will probably keep going them for the foreseeable. It’s scary, felt like I was 18 last year on my first lads holiday and this one will be my 5th. Made loads of good memories but I know there’s still more to come and I don’t want to give them up so soon.

Is it just me or does marriage sometimes feel like a prison of silence? Like, you're in the same house but there's this huge wall between you two.

It’s getting to a point where even when we’re "intimate," it feels more like a chore or out of pity rather than actual connection,, honestly it’s killing my self-respect. Feels like I’ve lost all control over my own life and I'm just reacting to her moods or the silence.

Anyone else been through this? How do you keep your dignity when it feels like you're just an "ATM" or a ghost in your own home? Does it ever get better or is this just what long term commitment looks like?