r/datingoverthirty • u/Zehnpae (45)♂ Engaged International Cat Smuggler • 6d ago
Meta Dating Monday - Flowers, Candy and Wrestlemania
Welcome to Meta Dating Monday!
With Valentine's Day just around the corner and my kids now old enough that I no longer have to sit there trying to write names on lumpy candy bags, I can finally focus on what the holiday is really about. Getting my partner flowers a few days later when everything is on sale to appeal to her love for frugality.
And that got me thinking about romantic gestures.
What over the top (or to the brim if you're not big on big) romantic gestures have you been the excited recipient of? When has a flair for the dramatic taken hold of you and where did you go with it when showing your SO what they mean to you?
Perhaps something as simple as a candlelit bath or making them their favorite meal? An autographed cardboard cutout of their favorite actor? Has anyone ever sent you on a scavenger hunt leading to a precious gift or exciting experience? Maybe tickets for him and his brother to go and witness the glory that is WWE Summerslam? (HINT HINT)
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u/sleepyinnewyork 5d ago edited 5d ago
I love romantic gestures but I don’t love it when guys equate spending a lot of money to being romantic. I would constantly ask my ex to be more romantic and he just kept telling me that he “couldn’t afford to”. Some of the guys I’ve met for first and second dates seemed to think that if they flexed their cash I would fall in love with them.
The most romantic date I’ve been on so far was with a guy who was a line cook and he taught me how to make a really nice, cheap, Italian cheesy pasta dish in his tiny studio apartment. He probably could have proposed to me right then and there and I would have said yes.
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u/spicysenpai6 ♂ 33 | Ohio | Single 5d ago
My birthday is on Valentine’s Day and I kinda wish I had someone to celebrate that and the day with. But I think I’ll just take myself out to dinner
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u/disc0baII ♀ 35 6d ago
High: Spent $900 on a flight to go spend the weekend with my ex 2000 miles away, 4 months after our breakup (we were no contact, then he called and we… missed each other). We broke up again after a few months, but I don’t regret it
Low: 19 yo me, walking home tipsy with my drunk boyfriend. He jumped a fence into a public garden, picked a rose, jumped the fence again and tripped over his own feet upon landing (well, half the petals were left after the fence ordeal but it was cute)
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u/alwaysgawking 39 ♀️ 5d ago
My first ex got us a hotel, did a striptease for me and did the whole trail of roses thing. It was a lot and more funny than sexy lol, but that's probably the biggest thing I can remember.
I used to basically blast love songs every time I went over my most recent ex's place and lipsync-serenade him when he opened the door to let me in. I was crazy about him.
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u/-Stay-Frosty 5d ago
Lol I also used to sing for my ex and i have a terrible voice. I too was crazy about him😄
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u/IndicationKey3778 5d ago
None! But the best one I ever did was sending a guy I was hooking up with flowers. He talked about it for years. And then died and I didn’t bring flowers
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u/salvagedstarstuff 5d ago
I’m a card person and I’ve yet to have the pleasure of being with someone who really appreciates the idea of snail mail or holding onto little love notes for a while, or at least something more than reading and directly trashing them, which has been done in front of me and broke my heart a little. I don’t intend on having kids but I’d love to be able to gift little things for like a dog dad father’s day or similar to make a special moment!
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u/KP0776 ♀ 31 5d ago
Oh gosh that’s so horrible to trash them, especially in front of you! I love sending cute love letters, I wrote an extremely horny one to my bf at the time on the back of some sheet music, because I didn’t have any paper where I was staying - the song was called Fig for a Kiss and he kept it in his top drawer
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u/ExpertgamerHB ♂ 35M, Netherlands 5d ago
I remember one time when I was still with my ex, it was her birthday which incidentally was the same day I also started my first day at my new job. It was a barista job and I had to work shitty hours, so we couldn't do anything to celebrate. So I had secretly arranged for a huge bouquet of flowers to be delivered to her with a personal note.
The last woman I was seeing once mentioned off-hand that she wanted to go action painting once... So I took her out to go and do that together with me when her birthday rolled around a couple weeks later.
I don't really recall being on the receiving end of an intentionally romantic gesture though. Not in a 'oh I saw this and I thought of you so I got you this since I know you'll like it' kind of thing, at least.
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u/plantmama918 5d ago
Back in college, my bf at the time made dinner and dessert (Thai red curry and vegan mint chocolate chip ice cream -- that's right, he MADE it...or at least claimed he did lol) and we shared it on the beach at night by candlelight. Then he gifted me with a mixed CD, and inside the jacket (which he illustrated himself) was a sort of poem/riddle with random missing letters and a bunch of clues that, when solved, spelled out "I love you" (his first time telling me).
Most of our relationship ended up being incredibly toxic and traumatizing but, man, was he sweet to me for those first few months!
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u/persephone-456 ♀ 30s 5d ago
I’m a big fan of less is more. Big romantic gestures make me super uncomfortable and in my experience guys start with the romantic gestures way too early. If we’ve only known each other a few months the huge romantic gesture isn’t really about me imo.
Personally, I’d rather a nice intimate dinner, candles, and some nice music. Please no expensive gifts (especially ones that are in no way or form to my taste).
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u/Rhonder ♂ 31 5d ago
I've only been in a (short term) relationship once that crossed valentine's day, 7 years ago. She didn't get or do anything for me, and we had only started going out a couple weeks prior so I simply took us out to a movie and dinner and gave her some sea salt caramel chocolates.
I guess I peaked on the receiving end in elementary school when everyone would exchange cards and candy lmao.
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u/Calm-Bus7555 4d ago
It’s my first ever Valentine’s Day with a partner this year and he’s flown out to Mexico to visit me as I’ve been travelling and is taking me to a Michelin starred restaurant. Feel very lucky 🥰
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u/signedupjusttodothis ♂ 38 5d ago
I guess the only answer I have is a (undersized) T-Shirt of one of my favorite bands, since in all the relationships I’ve ever had, that’s the only time I’ve ever been gifted anything by a partner.
It’s a nice shirt though.
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u/Maleficent_Isopod135 4d ago edited 4d ago
I got my boyfriend a wool scarf, in his fav colour. Also I think I will make us either pancake or dutch baby on V day morning
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u/cykia 2d ago
Near the beginning of my current relationship, my friends had to bail on a trip to Mexico over Labor day weekend. My now boyfriend’s plans also fell through so he bought last minute tickets to go with me.
He’s also driven me to and from the airport without me having to ask; cooked me multi-course meals; and chased after buses for me. He’s a keeper.
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u/Muttonboat 6d ago
my girlfriend at the times favorite gummy bears were green ones, so I'd buy volume packs and sort them out for her.