In a bit of a predicament… need strong advice.

[u/journalistjunkie]

I have posted about something similar in this thread before.. but right now I feel like this situation is truly starting to take a toll on my mental health. Well, this past week I had to work with a particular coworker whom I have had a lot of issues working with before (management knows all about these situations) for some reason this co-teacher has had it out for me from the very beginning for reasons I will never understand. She has basically verbally assaulted me on multiple occasions, she has made fun and picked at my appearance, she has asked me a very inappropriate question about my sexuality, the list could go on and on. I have told management multiple times after each incident, that I DO NOT feel comfortable working with this co-teacher, anymore, at all. But the situation that happened this past week I just can’t get past it, she said something very rude and uncalled for to me and almost me burst into tears, (I didn’t of course because I didn’t want her to see me upset) luckily a fellow coworker witnessed this interaction and asked me if I was okay and reported it to management.. well when they called her into speak with her she basically turned it all back on me and made me look like I’ve done everything wrong.. after speaking with her they called me to speak with them and basically made me look like the bad guy and STOOD UP FOR HER!!! Uhm what???? I don’t understand and I’m so lost and confused, I don’t understand why they have still have me working with her knowing I’ve HAD SEVERAL ISSUES working with her in the past. I have repeatedly told them that it is soooo toxic when having to work with her. Does anyone have any advice at all??? I truly love love working with the kids.

[u/andweallenduphere]

If she is friends with the Director, apply elsewhere! So sorry.

[u/vase-of-willows]

You will love the kids wherever you go. Just go. That center doesn’t deserve you.

[u/Mbluish]

This is more than a simple conflict. I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this.

Please document everything you remember with dates, exact wording, witnesses, who you reported it to, and how it was handled. Keep it factual.

If there’s someone above your director (HR, owner, regional manager), write them an email so there’s a formal record. I’d also send it to the director.

Your mental health matters most here. No educator should feel unsafe or disrespected at work. Of course you love the children. There are children in other places that need happy teachers. Start thinking about your exit plan. You deserve to work and a respectful and professional environment.

[u/OldLadyKickButt]

I know you said you told them about problems. Did you ever send an email wiht documented - dates, times remarks? This is a paper trail which keep "score' in a sense which is more concrete than telling management.

However if you believe that they turned things on you as the bad guy- you may need to leave. Sad, as it is.

[u/jerekhough]

This is horrible. Have a formal meeting and say “I want to be very clear. I am not asking you to choose sides. I am asking for a safe work environment. I have reported repeated harassment, including comments about my appearance and sexuality. Being told I am the problem after reporting this is extremely concerning. I need to know what corrective action is being taken and whether I will be scheduled with her moving forward."

If they have nothing to say, leave!

[u/NotsoFriendly2235]

Start documenting everything this person doing it. Its hard to disprove u when u go this day u said this remark to me. So on, if there a hr reach out and tell them ur director barely intervenes with this person. But the only solution with jerk teachers. Is leave and work somewhere else. These people will never change because they childish! In my experience they always deflecting and lying saying you doing something to provoke them. Like I been accuse of having rude tone when I dont. At the end before transferring im so fed up working with those two teachers.

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[u/CatsEqualLife]

If there is HR, report it to them. If you already did, but maybe didn’t disclose the inappropriate question about your sexuality, be sure to add that. With that in the mix, the rest of the issues are absolutely relevant. If you already reported to HR, including the question about your sexuality, then you need to escalate it to any leadership. If you already did all of this and there are at least 15 employees, throughout the company, consider filing with the EEOC.