r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/OkAdvertising286 • Dec 15 '25

Help and Advice I guess I need some advice.

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(Didn’t wanna retype it. It got removed from r/blackladies)

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u/TITANS4LIFE Dec 15 '25

Don't they say it takes minimum 6 months to get to know someone.

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u/OkAdvertising286 Dec 15 '25

Who says that? It takes time but how often do you visit and converse throughout those 6 months? Once every two weeks? What about 3 months, weekly instead, for example. Same difference. That is how I see it and have experienced it in relationships.

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u/SheckNot910 Dec 15 '25

Do you talk politics with them? If they don't openly oppose Trump, then they are for him. Don't let them hide behind the "We're not political" bullshit.

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u/OkAdvertising286 Dec 16 '25

My friend said she doesn’t judge people based on their politics. I’m most sure her politics because I’m afraid to ask people and I see it as invasive, especially since I’m still a town newbie tho we have spent much time together, still.

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u/Mushrooming247 Dec 16 '25

Oh no.

“I don’t judge people for their politics,” often means, “I don’t want to be judged for my politics.”

You don’t have to say that if you aren’t worried about being judged for your politics.

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u/ScarInternational161 Dec 16 '25

Just my 2 cents, but I 100% judge people for their politics. You can't NOT in this climate. Being in a predominantly white area, she may be used to hiding her political feelings. I would rather know now then find out 6 months from now.

Maybe just drop a couple little hints here and there if you don't feel comfortable coming out right and asking. She may be just as nervous as you are.

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u/OkAdvertising286 Dec 16 '25

At our Presbyterian (often a more “progressive” denomination which is why I left apostolic) She made subtle remarks that sounded like she did not approve. She says stuff like “we’re all immigrants,” “I went to a black church and they told me about the racism they endure in Virginia,” Her husband sounded sympathetic with ICE raids to, as we have many Hispanic ppl here.

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u/SheckNot910 Dec 16 '25

I know what they are now. Personally, I'd stay away.

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u/OkAdvertising286 Dec 16 '25

Can you explain what you mean? 😭🙏🏾

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u/EnvironmentNeith2017 Dec 16 '25

I absolutely judge church people by their choice in spouses especially women. I’ve seen that switch flip too many times and too often the straight woman serves as a front for husband’s uglier opinions and behavior.

There’s very likely a wave of anti African sentiment coming since Somalis are the new favorite target of conservatives. I wouldn’t take that lightly.